Lead Life with No Regrets

I promise you, after reading this post your life will transform completely.

Every book has a birth history, and the author of the book wrote it when she was working in Australia, in a palliative care unit as a nurse. All her patients were in last stages of their lives. As she spoke to them every day as a care giver,?she realized that every dying person had some or other regret in their lives. And the remarkable things were that there was no similarity between the patients, but their regrets were similar.

She goes then to write about the top 5 regrets in her book. I am going to share those with you so that you don’t have those regrets in your life.

Regret number 1

“I wish I had lived my life on my own terms & the way I wanted to live without thinking or worrying about what would others think”

Every dying person has this regret in his mind that he/she led their whole life thinking about what other people think and due to which they never did what they wanted to do.

Don’t wear these clothes, what would?people think, don’t go there what will people think, don’t do this what will people think/say

And now as they are on?their death bed and dying, none of those people who they cared about as to what will they think or say are with them. Few of them didn’t marry the people they loved, some of them didn’t follow their passion, some of them didn’t go for their dream job, just because they were worried what someone else would think. I?am not writing this to tell you to be rebellious but the point I am making is that the things you believe in, take a stand on those. If you lead your entire life about what will other people think then you will also have this regret at some point in time.

?Regret number 2

"I wished I had not over worked myself"

I wish I had spent more time with my partner, my parents, my children and had seen them grow.

The author does not say that don’t do hard work but what she says if you are becoming successful at the cost of your youth and that prime time which will never come back, then you are paying a phenomenally heavy price for that success. So, plan your life so that you can spend time with your loved ones. Take out time from your schedule for those you care about. Or else your will have this regret some day or some time in your life too.

Regret number 3

"I wish I had enough courage in me to tell people how I feel"

The feelings which the author refers to here are not only romantic feelings, but the ones where...

“How I wish I told my mother how much I love her; I wish I can tell my brother how much he means to me in my life. I wish I could tell my cousin/friend how much he/she hurt my feelings”

The people who?are close to us or the ones we care most about and interact with on a daily basis we either take them for granted or think that I will talk to them later as to how I feel. As we fear that either we will spoil the relationship or that we have a lot of time to tell them how we feel.

So, if there is something you think you need to say or expressed then don’t hold back, say it or else you will have this regret later.

Regret number 4

"I wish I stayed in touch with my friends, and I wished I had spent more time with them"

Remember some of these friends were those with whom you were inseparable, and you could not imagine spending a day without. It’s possible that your lives drifted in separate direction for education or in search for work. Remember we live in age where we can call, text or video calls them any time. Please call and stay in touch with them or else the regret that you have lost touch with your close friends will be with you as well.?

Regret number 5

"How I wished I sought after happiness"

Every dying person knows what was that which use to make him/her happy. But they either didn’t do what made them happy or lived in a false pretext that their happiness was attached to something else. Remember the remote control of your happiness is with you. Make sure you use it and point it the direction you want. Don’t give the remote control of your happiness to someone else and live with the regret that you could have been happier.

Have you ever heard any dying person to say that I wish I had bought one more house, or a watch, or had more jewelry to wear? I don’t think so.?On your death bed one is not worried about materialistic things. One regrets those things which were very near,?but they didn’t care or didn’t do.?

Author - Bronnie Ware; Book "The Top Five REGRETS of the Dying"?