Lead by Example

You cannot preach change if you are not willing to take it yourself., especially when it involves children and family. Definitely, like any responsible parent, I want the best for my children, manners, education, career, and future; nevertheless, the question was how could I motivate them.

My biggest challenge was always with my eldest child, a rebellious young man who has a different perspective on life. 

There was a long list of things that we were continuously discussing that he needed to do. We argue a lot, though he has a kind, generous, loving personality, and he is my pride and joy. Saying that we disagree a lot, and I wasn’t able to convince him to take specific challenges.  

In brief, during our trip to Paris last April, we went to Cergy Park, where there are lots of extreme sports, and they were climbing trees, ropes etc.

While I was waiting for them with my brother-in-law, other people were doing bungee rope throw. Hummmm! 

When Yusuf and Mohamad finished, and we were about to go, Yusuf challenged me! Hey dad, you would never do that! Do you bet? You know what I will!, and I did!

In summary, I was always looking for ways that I can encourage change in him, and here was the opportunity. I wanted him to do stuff that he wouldn’t usually do; I have to lead by example.

What I have discovered, is that it is fun, norm breaker, and adrenaline inducer that makes you more positive. I bonded with my son, in something that he likes, and created elements of dialogue. That was an achievement. 

If you want others to change, start with yourself? They will follow.

When you are leading an army, you don’t hide and ask your soldiers to go to war. You lead them to victory!

When you are in business, and you want them to delegate, start delegating? If you want them to learn more, start learning?

Any other ways, I am curious?