Laziness Is Divorce!

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Why is divorce so rampant in many regions of the word? Divorce

happens so frequently because so many married people are lazy. Yes

lazy! They are very lazy. You see, marriage is work – its hard work.

But there are so many couples who don’t want to work it. When they

were engaged, they worked the relationship, they made sacrifices, and

they deliberately did things that would make the other happy. They

tolerated each other; they prioritized one another as much as they

could. They worked!

After marriage, they throw it all away. They stop making efforts they

know are tried and tested, efforts they know can help any relationship

to thrive are buried in the past and yet they expect the marriage to be

getting better. Then suddenly, one party wakes up one morning and

says “I want a divorce”. Do you know what that means? It means

that they still have all the energy and skill that they know can make

relationships healthy. Now they have decided that they are going to

make all those sacrifices over again but not with their spouse – in

their hearts, they have already chosen another man or another

woman. It may be someone that they already know or someone they

have made up in their minds.

More often than not when they get their divorce and marry another,

they quickly discover within a short time that both parties have

stopped making continuous efforts to make it blissful. The sweetness

disappears again. Again, they get another divorce and another and

another! They stay unhappy for life because they walked away from

happiness.

Don’t get a divorce. You retired from work when there is still so

much work to do. Start working again. And do you know the good

thing about work? Work always attracts work! When one partner in

a marriage resumes working again, it initially shocks the other person.

They would begin to think that it’s not real but go ahead, start doing

the first things again. Patience is critical. As time passes, you will

discover that work attracts work. The replies will begin slowly but

surely.

Divorce is many times a selfish planet. Often, it disregards the

welfare of the children and puts that of the spouse who is

demanding for divorce ahead of those of all others in the family.

Don’t get a divorce, remember exactly when and where the

relationship started crumbling and change your mind, make a U-turn

and resume from where you had deliberately stopped. Deliberately

restart and pray for your spouse and you.

Remember also how great things were when you began dating and

how you couldn’t bear to be away from each other. Gradually remind

the other of the good times by your words and your deeds.

Crumbling marriages are repairable.

Don’t get a divorce, see a smart marriage counselor like me, open up

to him or her and take your restoration as a project that must

succeed. Make plans; implement them, become very tolerant again

and pursue specific goals and peace. Change will come. Quit looking

at that person or stop thinking about that other man or woman

whether it’s someone you know or someone you made up. Hear it

from me, they will come with their own flaws – all humans have

them no matter how nice they may seem. That person may even be

worse than your spouse that you want to divorce – you never really

get to know people until you live with them. You have lived with

your spouse and you know their strengths and weaknesses. You can

make it work again just like you did before and immediately after you

got married. Focus on the strengths of your spouse and celebrate

them over and over again – celebrated people make efforts to stay

celebrated. Don’t get a divorce.

FROM THE BOOK, Don't Get A Divorce But Please Do Get A Divorce!

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