Latest: A three-way tie!

Well, what do you know?! It looks like there are 3 winners this week.

3 equally important desires? Well, statistically-speaking, that's possibly pushing it but it's worth investigating why they came out equally on top.

Let's put them under the microscope and consider individually, one at a time.

Achieve

My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me Winston Churchill

What is it to achieve? And, most importantly perhaps, how do you achieve?

Achievement is all about reaching desired goals. Promotions, physical aspirations - running a marathon, lifting bigger weights, trying to win a tournament, getting investment for a start-up, raising a family. Whatever it is, I think it involves 3 things.

1. Motivation
2. Determination
3. Endurance

Most likely in that order.

I would have added luck but I'm not sure how true that is. How much luck do you make? Answers in the comments, please.

Then I guess the next question to ask when aiming to achieve is...

How can you be motivated, determined and enduring?

I like to think of examples by way of getting the conversation going about this kind of thing, like

1. Remember the time you tried to write a book. What motivated you to sit down and actually write?
2. Remember when someone told you that it wasn't possible to complete a project in the designated time. What proved them wrong?
3. Remember when you were coming up to the 10-mile marker in the half-marathon (13.1 miles). What kept you going?

Food for thought, yes?

Give back

I have found that among its other benefits, giving liberates the soul of the giver Maya Angelou

What makes us give back?

As you may know by now, I'm a Facet5 practitioner, which means that I'm often talking with clients about the 5 factors which make up their personalities -

• Will
• Energy
• Affection
• Control
• Emotionality

Affection is all about a person being either self- or others-regarding. "High Affection" people put others before themselves. They are considered empathetic by nature. If you put "To give back" as your desire in the poll, it's likely that you are fairly high on the affection scale.

Though this may not always be the case. You may have made a conscious decision to change your behaviour so that you focus on others rather than yourself, maybe because you feel you've achieved your more self-regarding financial or spiritual goals and you want to pass it all forward to other people.

So giving back may be either a natural state or a purely aspirational one. Or perhaps somewhere in the middle.

And we're talking about a desire to give back here. So where do you stand? Natural or aspirational?

To be wealthy

What do we mean by wealth?

• Security - financial, emotional, physical and spiritual - the feeling that wealth means no more anxiety, no more wolves at the door, the relief that comes with feeling that life isn't ruled by the constrictions of paying out or striving to be in a better position.
• Passing through a material barrier or ceiling - "I want to be a millionaire" - running a race towards a number that means something.
• Abundance - the purest feeling behind giving and receiving without fear. Or that everything is available to you, regardless of cost. Or that there are enough people in your life to keep you feeling alive forever.
• Is there something else - something more tangible or desirable - a higher plain, if you like? Is that what wealth is?
• Or is it, simply, improvement, improvement on a more gradual, day-to-day basis, something you're constantly comparing with your own perceived state of poverty.

How wealthy are you? How wealthy do you want to become? And what does wealth actually mean to you?

And how important is to you to understand other people's wealth? Can your view be affected by how wealthy or poor others are?

And finally, do you agree with this -

The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively Bob Marley

What do you think?

As ever, I'd love to hear your views and perhaps why you think these 3 things were considered of equal importance.

According to the poll and overall, that is ??