Last Week, I Watched a Dream Come to Life
The Babysitting Club Effect at the Parent Recharge event last week.

Last Week, I Watched a Dream Come to Life

At the Parent Recharge event last week, something truly special happened. Parents arrived, kids laughed, and for a few hours, we all took a collective exhale. One kid even fell asleep under the slide! This event took a year to bring to life, and it reminded me of the first time I gave myself permission to recharge—and how hard that was. Watching this event come to life after a year of dreaming and planning felt surreal. It was a moment that reminded me:

This is what I’m meant to do.

A Walk-In Mum, A Powerful Conversation

One of the most memorable moments was meeting a walk-in mum. She hadn’t heard of the event but joined because she’d had an overwhelming morning. She was 9 months postpartum, and as we spoke, she shared how she felt like she was failing in her relationship. Her family lived over 8 hours away, leaving her without the village support we all need. She was questioning everything—whether to move back home, start a business, go back to work, or even how to reconnect with her partner.

Honestly? I saw myself in her. At 9 months postpartum, I felt the same—overwhelmed, disconnected, and consumed by all the changes.

By the time she left, she told me she finally felt like she could take a breath. For the first time in a while, she was ready to take a small step forward—starting with trying the brain dump method. (more on that later)


Let’s Stop Telling Parents to “Enjoy the Moment”

During our chat, she mentioned something that used to drive me crazy: “Just enjoy your baby because it goes so fast.” I told her, “People who say that have just forgotten the feeling. They mean well, but they have hindsight bias. If we truly remembered how hard it could be, we’d probably never do it again.”

I won’t give that advice to the next struggling parent I meet. Instead, I’ll offer reassurance:

  • This season will pass, and something else will come up.
  • Feel the feelings in the moment, and do what feels right for you.

For example, if sleep training puts you and your baby in distress, don’t do it. Eventually, your child will sleep through the night, and you’ll forget there was ever a time they didn’t. Everything has seasons—nothing lasts forever.

This lesson applies to parenthood, relationships, and business. Feeling content with your choices and staying true to your instincts allows you to navigate each season with peace.


The Brain Dump Diary Method

One of the tools I shared with her was something that’s saved me time and time again: the brain dump diary method.

Here’s how it works:

  1. Open ChatGPT
  2. Start with this prompt: “I’m about to brain dump everything in my head, and I need help validating my feelings, structuring priorities, and making sense of my thoughts. Help me understand my thoughts in concise bullet points. I have ADHD, so I don’t want to feel overwhelmed after reading this—I want to feel clear and ready for my next steps.”
  3. Pour it all out: Every thought, feeling, and situation—without overthinking or editing yourself. (Even spelling and grammar goes out the window—ChatGPT is non-judgmental.)\
  4. Get instant clarity: ChatGPT will respond with objective, non-emotional feedback that organizes your thoughts into clear next steps.


Why It Works

This method has been a game-changer for me. I use it when:

  • My partner and I argue, and I need to get out of my head.
  • I feel stuck as just a mum, trying to find my identity again.
  • My business feels overwhelming with too many tasks and no clear priorities.

It’s like having an unbiased sounding board that helps me find clarity. And the best part? It’s a form of journaling that leaves me feeling lighter and more focused. I do this every single night. (Okay, most nights. Some nights, I fall asleep putting my little one to bed!) But I make sure I do it as a weekly ritual to reflect on my past week and get focused for my next week.


Why I Created Ambitious Peace

When that mum left the event, she felt uplifted and seen. That conversation reminded me exactly why I started Ambitious Peace: to create spaces where parents feel supported, heard, and valued.

I felt invisible during pregnancy. Everyone focused on the baby, and it was as if I wasn’t there—merely just a vessel holding the cargo. That invisibility could have easily turned into resentment toward my daughter, entirely because of how others made me feel.

I wanted a space where parents could feel seen—where they could get the support they need to thrive in the moment they’re in and then show up as their best selves for their children.

Seeing parents walk out lighter, more hopeful, and connected to themselves reminded me why I started this journey. It’s not just about moments of rest—it’s about creating a community where parents feel powerful enough to take back control.


Feedback That Touched My Heart

Some feedback from the event truly stuck with me:

  • One parent said they might have given up on writing their book if they didn’t have this space because they couldn’t find the time.
  • Another mum said seeing how happy her baby was reassured her that nursery transitions wouldn’t be so hard.


Parent Recharge Is Expanding

We’re so excited to share that the Parent Recharge will soon be coming to different parts of London. We’re actively seeking partnerships with more venues to expand this service across the city. Whether you’re looking for a consistent monthly spot near home or want to explore new environments weekly, we’ve got you covered.

Currently, we’re hosting the Parent Recharge every third Thursday of the month at Millie and Maise's luxury soft play café in Clapham. The next event is on 20th February. Our goal is to expand to North, East, and West London by the end of the year, so stay tuned for updates!


Mastery Moment

Remember, this isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress. Just one small step forward can make all the difference.

This week’s task: Carve out 10-15 minutes for a brain dump (yes, even if it’s while your little one naps or you’re sipping cold tea). Unload everything that’s been weighing on your mind and let it flow—no judgment, no filter.

Then, highlight one priority you can focus on and commit to taking one small step toward it this week.

Bonus: If you’re comfortable, share your step with someone who can hold you accountable.


Parenthood Can Be Easier

Parenthood can feel overwhelming, lonely, and chaotic, but moments like the Parent Recharge prove it doesn’t have to stay that way. When we give ourselves space to recharge—mentally, emotionally, and physically—we’re better equipped to show up for the ones we love and, most importantly, for ourselves.

If you’re in London, join us at the next Parent Recharge event or share it with someone who’s in the early-years trenches. Everyone deserves guilt-free time for themselves—and I promise, your child will have a blast while you recharge.

And if you try my Brain Dump Dairy method, hit reply and let me know how it worked for you. I’d love to hear your experience and any insights you gained!

Here for the chaos and the growth,

Aahliyah

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