Language to navigate Positive Thoughts

My husband came home upset one evening. He was working with a batch of young interns. Over a cup of evening coffee he asked me "I am not sure where I am going wrong, I keep telling these kids not to do things and all they do is exactly that." My smile said it all... Once there lived a boy named Eshan who loved adventures. He was only eight years old. One day he was playing in the park. He was climbing on the trees. He was a good climber and soon climbed twenty feet high in a tree. Excited, he started hanging on one of its branches and swinging back and forth. He was having so much fun that he did not realize that at that very moment, one of the branches could break. His cousin Shaan, who was just a year older started playing on the same tree. Eshan's father and Shaan's mother noticed that the kids were up too high that they could fall. Before they could get to them, suddenly, a gust of wind came over the tree and it started to sway. Eshan could hear the voice of his father saying, “Eshan, hold on tightly!” while Shaan's mother was shouting, “Shaan, DON’T FALL!” within seconds, Shaan fell out of the tree. His mother ran to his rescue but luckily, he was not injured majorly just done bruises. While Eshan scampered carefully down the tree to safety. On the way home, Shaan's mother asked the father, “I wonder why when both of our boys have the same skill sets one fell and the other didn't ?” He replied, “I can’t say for sure but when the gust of wind came, you panicked and yelled out, 'don;t fall’ and then in that moment, he did.” The mother looked confused and surprised, so the father explained. You see, the mind processes commands. It has a very difficult time processing fear and negativity. In order for Shaan to respond to the command of not falling, he first had to imagine falling and then try to tell brain not to fall. While for Eshan, his brain had an instant image and command of hanging on tightly and so he did!”. My husband heard me out without response went out for a walk. The next evening was surely different. Am sure all hve guessed the outcome.

Reflection by Dr Anjana https://www.dhirubhai.net/in/anjanavinod

Reflect in life how often we actually speak so many negative things in our daily routine. We miss to realise its effect on human brain. Thats how we start feeding negativity fear and self doubt. Make and attempt from today onwards to eliminate negative words like not, nahi, never etc from our conversion and see the magic happen. We actually start taking and having conversations with people an start thinking of options rather than saying NO and ending. The Irony of life is we always focus on what we don't want instead of what we want. Simple example we say "I want to lose weight instead of I want to be healthy, I am unwell instead of am recovering from xyz. Remember our mind is an excellent servent but the worst master. It executes what it hears by validating it exists. Try it. Don't don't just don't look at the time on the top of your phone. Did you? If you did it's just because the mind wants to first confirm the visibility of time and then execute the command. Let's go ahead in life and work on creating a positive language for ourselves. By saying I am learning rather than I don't know. Let's not chase the butterfly instead mend our garden to let the butterfly come in. How do you read this story

1. If you had to change 5 statements you use in your daily life what would it sound like?

2. What does this story open up for you?