Laid off? Here's What To Do Next.

A lot is going on in the job market and I if the recent layoffs impacted you, I see you.?

Getting laid off can be traumatic. I’ve been there more than once.?

Even if you knew it was coming, it still could feel devastating or embarrassing.? In the hours and days following the layoff, you need time. Space. Compassion.?

Denying your feelings and getting into the hustle of what’s next is not the best next option.

Below are a few ways that can be helpful as you process what has happened.?

Acknowledge and accept how you feel. Find compassion for yourself. Right now, your brain and your body may need some soothing. Don’t gaslight yourself or drop into toxic positivity. Telling yourself, you can't think this way isn't helpful. You need to allow your limbic system to do its thing, to process the emotions (it’s fight or flight friends), which are simply neurochemicals running through your body. The chemicals will dissipate.? Then your pre-frontal cortex, the thinking part of your brain, can take over again and begin to problem solve--when you are ready.?

Explore the statements below. Find one that resonates with you; say it aloud to yourself as often as you need.?

Of course, I want to hide.?

Of course, I feel disappointed.?

Of course, I feel fearful.??

Of course, I feel embarrassed.??

Of course, I feel this way.?

Mindset. Getting laid off is no reflection on you. It’s not about your strengths or skills. It’s about your company’s lack of planning for marketplace conditions. This is the time you need to be gentle with yourself. You may even need to remove yourself from certain situations, conversations, or people. Dont hang around anyone who wants to feed your fears. Byeeeeeeee.

We want to introduce new thoughts softly. Begin to say to yourself

?I am practicing being the person who figures this out.

What does She/He/They think?

What next action should I take?

Time management. The universe has given you the gift of time. I know it doesn't feel like a gift; however, creating a job-hunting schedule is as important as finding space to read, explore, exercise, or connect.?

If you stare at a screen for 8 hours a day to urgently find a job, you will not find a job any faster. This is because you will be taking action from a negative, frenetic, or exhausted energy.? I promise you that if you allow for balance in your day, time to search, and time to play, you will get there with greater ease, and you’re executive decision-making functions will be sharper as you strategize and plan for what’s next.?

Community. Stay close to those who love you. Don’t isolate yourself. So many people are in the same boat and are also figuring it out. First, it gets better. And it may get hard again before it gets better again. Then one day you realize how much progress you've made and the resilience you’ve created.?

If you want to be employed again you will be.?

Be gentle with yourself in the meantime.