Ladies, It’s 2025—Shoot Your Shot!

All right, ladies, let’s talk. We’re officially two full months into 2025—the year of fearless living. We’re making power moves in business, negotiating raises like pros, and booking solo trips to Italy just because we can. And yet… some of us are still out here waiting for a man to read our minds and magically make the first move. ABSOLUTELY NOT!

Look, I get it. We’ve been conditioned to believe that if a man is interested, he’ll make the first move. But guess what? Men love a little clarity. And science backs it up—women who initiate a connection are twice as likely to land a meaningful relationship. So why leave your love life up to fate (or a man’s sometimes-questionable ability to pick up on signals) when you can take control?

Why You Should Shoot Your Shot

Let’s be real—half the time, the guy you’re eyeing has no clue you’re into him. He might think you're just being polite, being friendly, or worse… he might not even know you exist yet.

And let’s talk stats:

• Women who make the first move on dating apps receive higher response rates and better matches than those who wait.
• In long-term relationships, couples who started with the woman expressing interest report greater relationship satisfaction.
• And let’s not forget—confidence is attractive.

So, if you’ve been wondering, “Should I say something?” The answer is: YES, GIRL. SAY SOMETHING.

How to Make the First Move (Without Feeling Like You’re Proposing Marriage)

Whether in person or online, flirting doesn’t have to be a grand declaration. Keep it light, fun, and effortless.

1. The Eye Contact & Smile Combo (Classic for a Reason)

Hold eye contact for 2-3 seconds, then smile. If he smiles back, you’ve got a green light. If he looks away nervously? Also, a green light. (He’s just shy.)

2. “Accidental” Proximity & Small Talk

Position yourself nearby, and break the ice with something light. “Okay, I have to ask—what’s the best drink here?” or “You look like you know your way around this menu; any recommendations?” Boom. Easy. You’re in.

3. The Compliment with a Question

Men don’t get complimented nearly enough. Try this: “I like your style! Where’d you get that jacket?” It’s flattering, opens the door for conversation, and doesn’t feel forced.

4. The Digital DM Slide

It’s 2025, ladies. If you’re too nervous in person, take it to the DMs. “Hey, I noticed your comment on XYZ—great take! What’s your go-to first-date debate topic?” It’s casual, clever, and shows interest without pressure.

5. Just Say It.

If you’re feeling bold, go for the direct approach: “I like you. Let’s grab a drink sometime.” Men appreciate clarity, and this removes all guesswork.

The Worst That Can Happen?

Let’s do a quick reality check:

• He’s not interested? Okay, cool. Now you know and won’t waste your time.
• He’s flattered but taken? No harm, no foul.
• He’s excited and says yes? Bingo.

At the end of the day, you won’t meet your person if you don’t take a chance. Love doesn’t always fall into your lap—you sometimes have to reach for it. And if a little playful confidence gets you closer to the connection you want, why wouldn’t you go for it?

So, consider this your official permission slip to shoot your shot. Walk up, send the message, give the compliment. Worst case? You gain a little flirting practice. Best case? You meet someone amazing.

Now go forth, ladies. Flirt boldly. Love confidently. And fellas—if a woman shoots her shot, appreciate it. She just made your life easier. ??

What’s the best (or funniest) way someone has shot their shot with you? Drop it in the comments!