Lack of Chemistry and Energy in a first meeting
Nadia Mohammed
Director, Experienced Relationship Coach and Matchmaker at Personal Match UK
So, this is one of the many topics that I feel there isn’t enough content about in regards to supporting single Muslims. When a couple meet for the first time, there are a lot of different factors to consider. Within this specific article we are focusing on the Energy and Chemistry of a couple that has met for the first time. Its a known fact amongst my team that a persons mindset can have the biggest affect on their relationship life. Finding two people who are not only mentally, emotionally and physically compatible but they must also be at the right place in life ... at the same time.
Some feel that there should be ‘Chemistry’ from the off-set. In reality it doesn’t usually happen like that. There can be a basic connection at the beginning but as for a long lasting one you need to consider a few things.
Take yourself for example, have you ever met a person and initially thought wow this person is so easy to speak to? Probably, and this is a sign of good energy. The point I’d like to make is, it’s easy to have good chemistry when you’re not truly being yourself. By this is mean, how you are with your match isn’t how you would normally be with your best friend or family.
It can take a few meetings with the same person to open up and let more of yourself out, once you do this and the same connection is still there then I would class this as having chemistry. As your chat progresses past pleasantries and you discuss a topic or subject that is quite deep/specific you should look to too see if you have received a positive response, this will determine compatibility providing the subject.
What is Chemistry?
- The good and bad balance out.
- Two people finding common ground
- Open minded to each other’s lifestyles, even if they didn’t have that in common
- Physical attraction plays a part of this – sometimes not initially but builds as the conversation grows. “I thought she wasn’t my type but as we spoke more, I think we connected.”
Speeds up a reaction
A catalyst speeds up a reaction, it’s good to think of this in terms of your match. If you have chemistry initially which we have already identified means you both balance each other’s personalities and have a flexible approach to each other’s ideas and lifestyle then this will allow your relationship to progress at a much faster rate and successfully.
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Thank you for reading,
Nadia Mohammed, Personal Match UK, Director
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5 年True... Lovely article! :)
Director, Experienced Relationship Coach and Matchmaker at Personal Match UK
5 年Thank you for your comments, always great to see what everyone perspective is!
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5 年Very good article Nadia. There are many youngsters who expect the "bolt of lightening" to hit them when they meet a prospective partner, but as you've quite rightly said, in reality it's not until there have a been a few meetings/conversations and they hit upon a topic that one of the couple are passionate about, that you start seeing the real personalities. If it's not a mutual passion, then the reaction and conversation exchange between the 2 will give them a better understanding of each other.
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5 年Well done Nadia, mindset is very important regardless of what spiritual believe or religion you have. I do believe that financial compatibility also plays a big part when establishing a long lasting relationship.
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5 年Actually think the article is very good. Myself and my wife, although the attraction was immediately there, chemistry is something that takes time to build, and comes primarily by having no filter. Maintain your character and mannerism - chemistry will flow itself.