Be Kind and Week in Review

It takes less effort to be accidentally rude than intentionally kind.

Two times stand out in my memory where I was yelled at by a random person for cutting them off in a line.?In both cases, they perceived I rudely jumped ahead of them. ?Also, in both cases, I hadn’t even perceived them at all.?

I had enough situational awareness to do what I needed to do safely. I didn’t have enough to realize they were nearby and were trying to do the same thing.?Our focus on a goal naturally blinds us to the broader environment – and it takes intentional, conscious effort to see more.

I see it all the time.?A person who doesn’t hold the door open for the person right behind them.?Not because they’re rude, but because they’re not even aware how close the next person is.?

An inattentive driver who pulled in front of an 18-wheeler on an on-ramp and doesn’t realize how close to tragedy they were. (I watched the smoke come out of all the tires of the truck as it desperately slowed down to not hit them).

On this World Kindness Day, remember, no matter how nice of a person you naturally are, it still takes extra effort to not be accidentally rude.?It’s a skill we must practice to be extra aware of our surroundings and how our actions are perceived by those around us.

Some other thoughts on kindness I shared this week:

• Are you lifting others up?
• How can our network promote others just getting started?

30 years in 30 days

Continuing my daily posts of gratitude, I’ve chronicled my first startup, my third business I started, and my reset from NJ back to Georgia to start law school.

• Dot Com Startups – Fun while it lasted!
• A company is its people, and I was in good company
• 2001 was a career odyssey – but good friends remain constant
• I started another business, and your success was my vision
• The end of my NY/NJ chapter
• Starting Law School and a Family
• My 2L year and friends I made along the way

Looking for work?

A lot more people are looking for work this week than last.?Layoffs continue, but some companies are still hiring.?I shared a few thoughts this week on the topic.

• If you’re open to work, my thoughts on how you should post it
• Recruiting and sales seem to be the hardest hit – what other industries are as well?
• Is this an opportunity to pivot?

Veterans Day

On Friday, the U.S. honored our veterans.?I shared my thanks to those who served.

Technology Thoughts

I’m still a technologist and can help companies with the technology struggles they’re facing in our current world.

• Dinosaur technology? Let’s talk about upgrades.
• Data Scientists Hard to Find? Let’s talk about technology solutions.
• What hacking movies did you think were good or bad?

Some Fun Was Had

Times are getting tougher, but we still need to take a pause for some fun.?I had a few posts to try and do just that.

• Social Saturday – Your “Mew” Followers Are Watching!
• Should salsa be chunky or smooth??You can still vote!

In Conclusion

November is a great month for showing gratitude.?But it’s also a great month to remember to be kind.?Especially this November, as a lot of people are experiencing more stress.?Kindness goes a long way in this world, especially for those hurting.

As always, I appreciate your comments, thoughts, and taking the time to read what I share!

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