The Key To Taking Back Your Power??

Encountering what we perceive to be someone’s “bad” behavior is inevitable. Parent, friend, colleague, entrepreneur, no matter what role we are playing at any given moment, we will inevitably face these perceived ‘bad’ behaviors. The KEY to owning our own reactions and actions is to know that we have a choice whether or not we want to fight lower with lower, or be the rising tide that lifts all boats. Shift the dynamic that allows the initial sting inflicted by the negative event, so it is not as painful, but more so an opportunity to invite others into a more loving/productive space.

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1. Seek to understand.?This does not excuse or justify the negative behavior but rather gives YOU an opportunity to control the controllables and lead with compassion. Get curious and ask yourself: “Is there something else at work here?” Our fight/flight wants to react to negative energy/behaviors, I’m suggesting a pause. Are their poor choices really a direct reflection of you? Or is there something bigger going on here that we may not, see? Is there a true and lasting negative impact on your life?

2. Analyze. Taking that curiosity to the next level, using an objective analysis of the situation, from a global perspective, and gather the evidence and data to uncover the facts. This allows us to respond, versus react. i.e. This client is the worst, always questioning my recommendations. Once again, she’s questioned my recommendation and wants me to look up different approaches. With an objective analysis, we can surrender our inner dialogue that leads with emotion ‘this client is the worst’, which in turn allows us to step into objectivity and facts, ‘she wants me to look up different approaches to help support her making a decision.’ Then do just that. Time and energy recouped!

3. Agree to disagree. Unless we’re talking ethics and/or law, “right” is often subjective. Remember what happens when we fight lower with lower…things are often said that aren’t meant and bad feelings are left in its wake. Agree to disagree on the matter and move on.

4. Boundaries. Healthy ones of course, but boundaries nonetheless. Protect your heart, protect your peace, protect and honor your values and your uniqueness. Remind yourself of your worth, even if/when others cannot. When you take your power back, you do not fall prey to other’s negative behaviors, you take back your most precious resources, your time and energy. This often looks like omitting small talk with a colleague, parting ways with a friend/client, or creating systems and processes to be followed that alleviate the potentiality for upset within the work space.

5. Mindfulness. How you care for the six inches between your ears is the most powerful skill you can work on, the only one true thing that you will ever have real control over. Go internal in a positive way to block out what disrupted your energy; breathe, meditate, and declare a positive I AM statement.

With these five, evidence-based and empowering steps, there is no doubt that you will walk away feeling confident, capable and enriched in your abilities to own your power and lean into the greatest expression of who you want to be.

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