Keep your digital friends aside: surprised? Enjoy your own company

People willing to sit all alone, by themselves like me, are often considered to be weirdos or introverts..the ones in a group or with a couple of friends..laughing aloud..talking about their so called ''cool'' and '''hilarious'' stuff are referred to as extroverts or the outspoken ones. Being alone is often mistaken for loneliness but hey! It is equally possible for you to thoroughly enjoy your own company as well! Yes I do enjoy my own company!

There are a lots of people out there..standing and chatting with their buddies whom they have been bitching about earlier..and the irony is that they are so scared to have no one around them so they have no other option than to stay and continue..But why is it so??Why do people find it so miserable to know themselves and hangout with the person called ''me''???

I love to sit in a corner all alone when there's nobody to talk to..getting to know yourself is so therapeutic or if that sounds cheesy the word "fun' should do for you..Now taking my sister's example..she finds herself as a humorous person...she loves cracking jokes..which I don't find as funny as she does..she is always surrounded by people admiring her sense of humour.

Talking of us..here are a few tips and tricks for the same that you might want to peep in...know what you love doing...I personally..love writing and reading or maybe sitting in a corner and observing things around me and that is my real anti-boredom dose..!!You must know your 'kick' as well and start exploring more about your likes and dislikes.. I am a born loner and writer to the core! I get a new high whenever I write and go on writing to my hilt.

Take a ride..having time spent with the person called 'me' is even more fun when you're out of a particular place and start discovering new ones..now, if you don't know how to drive a car or a bike or even a bicycle the it is even better!!!Go for a walk..you gotta give it a try at least once..My happy spot by the window overlooking greenery...this-is-my-favourite-one! Having a place where you can probably sit and chat with yourself or celebrate peace is really refreshing..there are a few spaces in my house itself where I go and sit whenever I feel low or i wanna get away from the world..Have one reserved for yourself as well and trust me you'll simply love it!! Keep you digital friends aside...This might sound odd..coming from me right?

Of course you know that must love yourself in the sense of being solicitous for your own welfare and taking care of yourself. You don’t want to fail to get the right amount of sleep, eat nutritiously, abstain from harmful habits, and the like. But if by “loving yourself” you mean thinking about yourself and trying to cultivate a feeling of affection toward yourself as you would toward a friend or a lover, I’m not sure I see the use in that.

I’m 63. I love my children and grand children very much but they are always busy with their own family and understandably so therefore, and I love it when I Facetime with my son and daughter-in-law every Sunday morning or so, they call and we talk to our grand daughters and admire their newly made paintings or some other handicrafts they did last week.

Basically, I love it when I have a good conversation with someone on a worthwhile topic. I love it when I see an interesting exhibit in a museum. I love it when I read a lovely book in isolation with myself. I love it when I am alone at home and I order some favourite food and then go on reading for hours together without disturbance, if I fall asleep while reading it is fine with me because I start reading again when I wake up and have my cup of tea.

Notice that even though I said “I” a lot and talked about what I love, I never said “myself.” In my opinion, what brings happiness is to find something outside yourself that makes you momentarily forget yourself and just do it. Now it is true that this alone doesn’t relieve you of the feeling of loneliness, and I find that the times when I feel loneliness occur when I experience something I enjoy a great deal and wish I could share it with someone.

That can, certainly, be difficult, but if one hopes to attract a mate, I think that most people are intrigued by, and attracted to, someone who seems absorbed in something outside himself that animates and motivates him. It seems to give him a certain depth and interest that others want to share. I think the rest takes care of itself.

But that does not mean I don't enjoy good company. Whenever I encounter a group setting, I prioritise listening to what the group has to offer, resulting in me indirectly not contributing much to the conversation. I have no problem with entering and exiting a group for socialising, but I always tread within the boundaries and am unable to identify with any group. I often grapple with the thought of being missed out. The feeling of being around people and not being in sync with their energies just drain the living soul out of me. I often question myself whether there is something personally wrong with me or I am just a natural black sheep whenever it comes to socialising.

Then I introspect and questioned myself. I became withdrawn and soon I realised that I have been trying to live my life as what society believes is the proper way to socialise. I value sincere, meaningful conversations with a smaller group rather than in a large, highly energised setting. I also uncover my love for reading and being alone. This awareness made me at peace with myself and has unintendedly empower me with a quiet confidence to be comfortable in my own skin. Cheers!