Keep thy sanity! The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*Ck - A Counterintuitive Approach To Living A Good Life: Based On The Book Written By Mark Manson

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Yes, having to stay 'sane' in Turkey was a feeling I have had in the past period with an ever changing economy and still studying in a foreign language that is different to all other languages I'm familiar with.

The way I have chosen to do so is by going way back to how I started building knowledge as a child, by reading books.

This journey is a present to me for my birthday and also to stay 'sane'.

The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*Ck - A Counterintuitive Approach To Living A Good Life: Based On The Book Written By Mark Manson

My takeaways from this book are:

1. Self-improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn't necessarily mean they're the same thing.
2. Why? My guess: because giving a fuck about more stuff is good for business.
3. The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it's giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.
4. Most of us struggle throughout our lives by giving too many fucks in situations where fucks do not deserve to be given.
5. To me Not giving a fuck is: the overcoming adversity stuff, the willingness to be different, an outcast, a pariah, all for the sake of one's own values.
6. No matter where you go, there's a five-hundred-pound load of shit waiting for you. And that's perfectly fine.
7. The point isn't to get away from the shit. The point is to find the shit you enjoy dealing with.
8. If you find yourself constantly giving too many fucks about trivial shit that bothers you, chances are you don't have much going on in your life to give a legitimate fuck about. And that's your real problem.
9. Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what's truly fuck-worthy.
10. I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process.?I was in love with not the fight but only the victory. And life doesn't work that way.
11. Who you are is defined by what you're willing to struggle for.
12. As Freud once said, "One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful".
13. When we feel we're choosing our problems, we feel empowered. When we feel that our problems are being forced upon us against our will, we feel victimized and miserable.
14. With great responsibility comes great power.
15. We are responsible for our experience that aren't our fault all the time. This is part of life.
16. Fault is past tense. Responsibility is present tense.
17. Outrage porn
18. The Victimhood Chic
19. The biggest problem with victimhood chic is that it sucks attention away from the actual victim.
20. Some of the most difficult and stressful moments of our lives also end up being the most formative and motivating.
21. Some of the best and most gratifying experiences of our lives are also the most distracting and demotivating.
22. We are the architects of our own beliefs.
23. Don't find yourself. Never know who you are. Because that's what keeps you striving and discovering. And it forces you to remain humble in your judgements and accepting of the differences in others.
24. We can be truly successful only at something we're willing to fail at. If we're unwilling to fail, then we're unwilling to succeed.
25. A lot of this fear of failure comes from having chosen shity values.
26. If your metric for the value "success by worldly standards" and you spend twenty (20) years working your ass off to achieve it, once it's achieved the metric has nothing left to give you.
27. If you just chase after highs to cover up the pain, if you continue to indulge in entitlement and delusional positive thinking, if you continue to overindulge in various substances or activities, then you'll never generate the requisite motivation to actually change.
28. Don't just sit there. Do something. The answers will follow.
29. Action isn't just the effect of motivation; it's also the cause of it.
30. It's not about giving a fuck about everything your partner gives a fuck about; it's about giving a fuck about your partner regardless of the fucks he or she gives.
31. Without trust, the relationship can no longer function.?So, it's either rebuild the trust or say your goodbyes.
32. If people cheat, it's because something other than the relationship is more important to them.
33. When we're overloaded with opportunities and options, we suffer from the paradox of choice.
34. Confronting the reality of our own mortality is important because it obliterates all crappy, fragile, superficial values in life.
35. They say that a butterfly flapping its wings in Africa can cause a hurricane in Florida; well, what hurricanes will you leave in your wake?
36. You are already great because in the face of endless confusion and certain death, you continue to choose what to give a fuck about and what not to. This mere fact, this simple optioning for your own values in life, already makes you loved. Even if you don't realize it.

It is still okay to disagree with an author.