Keep A Good Perspective Of Your Priorities While Growing Your Coaching & Consulting Business

This post was inspired by one of my current coaching clients.

He recently welcomed a new addition to his family.

A beautiful baby girl.

This client has gotten to the point where he has all of the paying clients he needs and has a waiting list of others who want to work with him.

However, since the birth of his baby girl, he feels a bit torn.

Torn between spending time with his daughter and running his coaching business.

Now right now, you might be wondering why he feels torn between these two things.

Here’s why.

My client didn’t come from a wealthy family.

In fact, for the majority of his life, he had a “poverty” mindset. (One reason why he struggled to attract paying clients in the past).

After we started working together and he began attracting a consistent and predictable flow of high paying clients, be began experiencing the financial joy of having others pay him thousands of dollars a month for his coaching knowledge.

And because of that, what he’s now finding is that with a new daughter in the mix, there’s a bit of an internal conflict between the two.

And he wanted to get my advice on how I think he should balance it.

Here was my answer to him.

“I think you should spend as much time with your daughter as you can. As you’ve realized, there’s a lot of money to be made in coaching others.

But don’t fall into the trap of forgetting the real reason why you wanted to build your own coaching business. It wasn’t to just earn a great income. It was to design a better life for yourself and your family.

What I’ve found is that the more time you spend with loved ones, the better you feel about what you’re doing, and the more success you create for yourself as a coach.”

I wrapped up by sharing with him a story I ran into a while back.

Note: This isn’t my personal story. I wanted to give credit to the author, but I couldn’t where this story originated from

Story

The older I get, the more I enjoy Saturday mornings. Perhaps it’s the quiet solitude that comes with being the first to rise, or maybe it’s the unbounded joy of not having to be at work. Either way, the first few hours of a Saturday morning are most enjoyable.

A few weeks ago, I was shuffling toward the kitchen, with a steaming cup of coffee in one hand and the morning paper in the other. What began as a typical Saturday morning turned into one of those lessons that life seems to hand you from time to time.

Let me tell you about it. I turned the volume up on my radio in order to listen to a Saturday morning talk show. I heard an older sounding chap with a golden voice. You know the kind, he sounded like he should be in the broadcasting business himself.

He was talking about “a thousand marbles” to someone named “Tom”. I was intrigued and sat down to listen to what he had to say. “Well, Tom, it sure sounds like you’re busy with your job. I’m sure they pay you well but it’s a shame you have to be away from home and your family so much. 

Hard to believe a young fellow should have to work sixty or seventy hours a week to make ends meet. Too bad you missed your daughter’s dance recital. ” He continued, “Let me tell you something Tom, something that has helped me keep a good perspective on my own priorities.” 

And that’s when he began to explain his theory of a “thousand marbles.” “You see, I sat down one day and did a little arithmetic. The average person lives about seventy-five years. I know, some live more and some live less, but on average, folks live about seventy-five years.” 

“Now then, I multiplied 75 times 52 and I came up with 3900 which is the number of Saturdays that the average person has in their entire lifetime.

“Now stick with me Tom, I’m getting to the important part. “It took me until I was fifty-five years old to think about all this in any detail”, he went on, “and by that time I had lived through over twenty-eight hundred Saturdays. “I got to thinking that if I lived to be seventy-five, I only had about a thousand of them left to enjoy.”

So I went to a toy store and bought every single marble they had. I ended up having to visit three toy stores to round-up 1000 marbles. “I took them home and put them inside of a large, clear plastic container right here in my workshop next to the radio. Every Saturday since then, I have taken one marble out and thrown it away.

“I found that by watching the marbles diminish, I focused more on the really important things in life. There is nothing like watching your time here on this earth run out to help get your priorities straight. “Now let me tell you one last thing before I sign-off with you and take my lovely wife out for breakfast. 

This morning, I took the very last marble out of the container. I figure if I make it until next Saturday then God has blessed me with a little extra time to be with my loved ones… 

“It was nice to talk to you Tom, I hope you spend more time with your loved ones, and I hope to meet you again someday. Have a good morning!”

You could have heard a pin drop when he finished. Even the show’s moderator didn’t have anything to say for a few moments. I guess he gave us all a lot to think about. I had planned to do some work that morning, then go to the gym. Instead, I went upstairs and woke my wife up with a kiss. 

“C’mon honey, I’m taking you and the kids to breakfast.” “What brought this on?” she asked with a smile. “Oh, nothing special,” I said. ” It has just been a long time since we spent a Saturday together with the kids. Hey, can we stop at a toy store while we’re out? I need to buy some marbles.”

After my client got done listening to this story, it all became clear to him exactly what he needed to do.

And with that, let me end this post by asking you a question.

Your action step

What is one thing that you can do today in order to ensure that you’re able to spend more time with your loved ones while growing your coaching business? 

Write it down and commit to taking action on it.

When you do that, what you’ll find is that you’ll feel better about what you’re doing, which will ultimately allow you to attract the high paying clients you need inside of your coaching business.

Thanks for reading.

Talk soon,

Extus

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