Just Being Honest

It's coming to me that I value privacy much less than I did before. If I do, it is mainly for the other person, not for myself. As much as I can, I try to not withhold anything so that one's perception of me can at least be accurate in that it is not clouded by my own doing. Of course their percepts are an incomplete picture, and however they stitch them together, I don't have say in that, aside from presenting myself accurately.

This is actually quite significant; it is not always easy to know what one wants for themselves. However, one can be totally honest in word.

I came to the conclusion that the standard for something which becomes dishonesty by omission rather than commission is if something comes up in thought as an important consideration. This may sound like a ridiculously onerous standard to live up to, to share basically anything that persists in thought. It is interesting though, I can only speak from my own experience, but sharing the seemingly unrelated thought often produces something of conversational alchemy.

Entering into business relationships, the only standard is radical honesty, I have discovered this in coaching that if there are withholds, things can quickly deteriorate. I still have difficulty in communicating criticism; I wish to communicate it in a tactful way, but so long as I don't treat it like a mark against the person at a fundamental level and the other person isn't overly defensive, we can proceed. Furthermore, it can be difficult for me to take criticism, especially if I get the impression that I am being treated unfairly.

Word choice doesn't matter so much as the intentionality behind communication.

Dishonesty creates fragmentation in one's world, one has to keep track of so many different worlds, and every lie creates a new fork. In honesty we only have to keep track of this world, not other hypothetical worlds which exist in which A is true (but it isn't).