Judgement

Over the past 12 years of coaching, I have become aware of a common pattern with my coaching clients. Numerous clients are struggling with how they view their circumstances. Either they see their circumstances or situation as good or bad or even begin to imagine something worse.

Making a judgement is the default for most of us.?I firmly believe that we 'feel' first and then 'think' – (look out for a great video I will share in Matters later this month).

While our values shape our judgements and emotional responses, four other areas will also shape our judgements. I call these our BAILs.

B?= Blindspots, biases. Blindspots are those things we never see, which an outsider might be able to provide. Same with biases. For example, your inner?biases?that accept nothing less than perfection.

A?= Assumptions about people, the world around us and ourselves. For example, your?assumptions?are that you have to be "on" all the time.

I?= Interpretations – how we see the outside world. For example, Your?interpretations?of a situation frame your judgement, actions, and emotions.?

L?= Limiting beliefs. For example, your?limiting beliefs?are based on fear of failure.

Sometimes our BAILs work against us when trying to achieve particular goals. Either separately or together, these BAILS can make obstacles challenging to overcome and certainly get in the way of us achieving our dreams.

Take, for example, money. Our beliefs about money create our reality around money. If your deep-seated assumption is that the only way to make a lot of money is to work hard, that will be your reality. Or what about the limiting belief that you don't deserve to have a lot of money? Or the bias that there is no such thing as abundance.

Recently I read this question – Is there anything we can do to overcome ingrained irrationality? The answer is that if the brain jumps to conclusions out of emotion first, assume that your first decision might not be the most informed.

Don't leap to conclusions. Think about it, and get more information.

Remember, your feelings and emotional responses are?data points only, not directives or handcuffs!

Just one of these BAILS can prevent us from achieving our true potential – and most of us have all four framed within our values. Isn't it time to give yourself a BAILout so your goals become more attainable? Understanding them better may provide you with the knowledge necessary to move forward to a more fulfilling life.

What do you believe is getting in the way of your goals?