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Let’s be honest: we’ve all been there. That moment when you’re doubting yourself, feeling like you’re not enough, and hoping someone else will swoop in to tell you, “You’re doing great.”

But here’s the thing: no amount of outside validation will fix the real issue if you’re constantly tearing yourself down inside. What if, instead of waiting for someone else to tell you you’re okay, you could show up for yourself with the same love and compassion you give to others?

The Validation Trap

When we’re too hard on ourselves, we naturally seek relief—often by looking for someone else to reassure us. And while a compliment or kind word can feel good, it’s temporary.

Why? Because the real problem is the voice inside your own head. If that voice is on a constant loop of criticism, no external praise can compete. The cycle repeats until you decide to break it.

Compassion > Criticism

Imagine how you’d talk to a close friend who’s struggling. You’d listen, encourage them, and remind them they’re human. Now ask yourself: Why can’t I do that for me?

Self-compassion isn’t about letting yourself off the hook; it’s about creating a solid foundation of support. When you stop beating yourself up, you stop needing others to validate you—and you can finally move forward with confidence.

How to Show Up for Yourself

Here’s how you can start giving yourself the love and support you deserve:

1. Pause When Criticism Creeps In:

Notice when you’re being hard on yourself. Replace self-judgment with curiosity. Instead of saying, “I always screw this up,” try, “What can I learn from this?”

2. Flip the Script:

Ask yourself: What would I say to a friend in this situation? Then say it to yourself.

3. Celebrate Small Wins:

Keep a list of the little things you accomplish each day, no matter how small. It’s a simple reminder that you’re making progress.

4. Let Go of Others’ Opinions:

The truth is, not everyone will understand or approve of your journey. That’s okay—it’s not their job to. The only validation that truly matters is your own.

Join Me in the Zero F’s Online Book Club!

Ready to dive deeper into this work? I’m hosting an online book club to discuss Mel Robbins’ The Let Them Theory. This book is all about letting go of the need to control others’ opinions and finding freedom in focusing on yourself.

We’ll break down the key lessons, share insights, and explore how to apply the “let them” mindset to our own lives.

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Final Thought:

You don’t need anyone else to tell you that you’re doing okay. The only person you need to hear it from is you. And trust me, when you start showing up for yourself with kindness and compassion, you’ll realize you’ve been doing better than you thought all along.