It's Not You, It's Me.... No, Wait, It IS You- Handling Rejection After an Interview

In the world of LinkedIn, new jobs are started, old jobs are gone, and the interview wheel keeps moving. In any situation though, job rejection can be tough to handle, especially when you’ve gone through the interview process and had high hopes. When we are interviewing, there is an emotional investment albeit a minor one at the beginning. You spend your time researching the company, preparing for the interview, and envisioning yourself in the role; and while it is not personal at all, a rejection can feel like a personal loss to many. When you aren’t selected, it is natural to being questioning your own ability and passion and that’s when uncertainty and frustration have room to set in. So, what do you do?

The main advice I give candidates who have been rejected (and yes, I use my own advice in my own life as well!) begins with a hard dose of reality. Acknowledging the feelings you are experiencing but also owning the facts of what you could have done differently. Sometimes, there’s nothing you can do differently and 90% of the time you will never know exactly why you weren’t chosen. BUT, the rules of the interview road remain the same despite the circumstance- maintain professionalism throughout, demonstrate follow-up and do not close the door. Why? Because those are the same skills that landed you in the interview in the first place and you will need those skills for that one moment when the staffing stars align. So, when you receive the "We have decided to move forward with other -----" email, remember that being diplomatic, decisive, direct and endearing will help you in the following ways:

?1. Maintains Professional Reputation

Industries can be small, and hiring managers talk. If you respond poorly, it could affect your chances with the same company or others in the future.

2. Leaves the Door Open for Future Opportunities

Just because you weren’t chosen this time doesn’t mean another position won’t open up. A positive response can make hiring managers more likely to consider you later.

3. Builds Resilience and Growth

Rejections are a natural part of any career. Handling them well helps you develop emotional intelligence, learn from the experience, and improve for future opportunities.

4. Allows for Constructive Feedback

If you respond professionally, you may have the chance to ask for feedback, which can help you refine your skills and interview approach.

5. Keeps Networking Opportunities Alive

Even if you didn’t get the job, staying in touch with the recruiter or hiring manager could lead to valuable connections and recommendations elsewhere.

6. Boosts Self-Confidence

Responding with grace helps you stay in control of your emotions and reinforces a positive mindset, making it easier to move on and find the right opportunity.

Remember, diplomacy, directness and professionalism with a dash of grace is always, yes always, the answer.

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