It’s time to learn the structure of your EGO!

Our Ego is our amigo!

Yup, I said it!

3 years ago I said the opposite, however, what I’ve learnt is how to navigate the ego and how our egoic structure works.

Our Ego is us, it’s always present and it’s internally structurally within our existence.

The sooner we work alongside it rather than against it, we will find mindset mastery and create our destiny.

Trust, Faith, and Responsibility.

The feedback on why business owners turn down my services.

“But you know me”

“Is this a private service”

“Don’t tell anyone I spoke to you”

“I like my addiction, it helps me”

The real problem:

Is the underlying narrative behind the addiction!

“It’s not the addiction that holds us back it’s the life the addiction denies us from living that holds us back.”

Our EGO wants to stay alive, that’s why we feed it poor narratives. We tell it stories to satisfy it.

William Whitecloud mentions in his course: CYD, create your destiny.

“I am not good enough”

“I’m not worthy”

“There is a right way”

“I'm not able to do that”

“I'm not allowed”

These are part of the 12 cultural beliefs we live behind.

I believe addiction, is an uncontrollable obsession, we give attention to, or seek attention from something, or someone through learned behaviour.

The story above creates addictive behavioural patterns and self-sabotage.

Self-sabotage is a neurological addiction

Verywellmind.com mentions in an article on January 6, 2021

“Addiction affects your brain's reward, motivation, memory, and related circuitry to the extent that your motivations are altered so that your addictive behaviors replace healthy, self-care behaviors.

The brain's reward system is also altered in such a way that the memory of previous rewards—be it food, sex, or drugs—can trigger a biological and behavioral response to engage in the addictive behavior again, in spite of negative consequences, and sometimes even though you no longer even find pleasure in the activity.”

Our business model comprises CBT, neurologists, counseling, and education are the basic fundamentals of psychology and how that can help you live an exceptional life both personally and professionally.

Ryan Holiday mentions this in his book: Ego is the enemy

“The only real failure is abandoning your principles. Killing what you love because you can’t bear to part from it is selfish and stupid. If your reputation can’t absorb a few blows, it wasn’t worth anything in the first place.”

Psychologically, according to my study and learned knowledge. The principle of our existence is based on our ego keeping us safe.

In the line above, if your reputation can’t absorb a few blows, it wasn’t worth anything in the first place.

We place our worth on our reputation that’s our ego. We can all take a few blows, that’s also our ego keeping us standing.

Our ego is part of our structure, if we didn’t have an ego perhaps we would fall apart…

The ego is the parts of you you want the world to see

The shadow is the parts of you, you don’t want the world to see.

So you are possibly wondering how can we use our Ego to our advantage, especially if so many people blame our ego for who we are.

A better question is why should we learn to use our ego to our advantage.

An extract from fearlessculture.com

“According to psychologists, if we don't have an ego, we would become mentally ill. We need it to mediate between the unconscious and the conscious. Your relationship with your ego can turn into either an enemy or an ally. The ego causes most of your suffering, but it can also save you from further pain.”

I’m mentioned this a few times in past articles.

Our ego is also a survival mechanism, it’s the part of the survival system keeping us safe with good intentions.

Especially in times when a challenging situation arises and we move towards trying it, our survival mechanism, ego internally says, I won’t be able to, but I’ll try.

What’s happening is we are setting an expectation, based on a past experience and emotional moment when we have failed to do something similar.

Our brain creates a Narrative to protect us with good intentions from a foreseeing event that might or might not occur.

The unconscious story. When this becomes an addictive behavioral pattern, it becomes subconscious and can activate, cause img a reaction not a response. Much like breathing.

We don’t even know it's happening.

Bessel A. Van der Kolk. Mentions in the book: The body keeps the score

“As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself…The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage.”

I’d like to wrap this up by sharing.

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-Pjero Mardesic, The Exeptionality Catalyst