It's Time to Get Your Blooming Life In Order

Sometimes the petals dying off a flower reminds me of the petal-by-petal unravelling necessary to get to the center or root of some of our deepest problems.

Two weeks ago I was speaking with a colleague who had revealed some very private traumatic issues that were impacting her career, ability to earn income and family dynamics. Her business was suffering and she was having a terrible time making headway. I was honoured to be a sounding board as she unloaded what was on her mind. However… I was faced with a HUGE challenge.

She was sabotaging her career and also her relationship with her partner. Her home life was potentially on the rocks. It is in my nature to help, to provide support when someone is in need. Most of us who are led by our hearts want to help. In fact, you are probably one of those people who wants to help a colleague, or a client, when they are feeling overwhelmed and appear to be drowning.

We reach out and unload our major concerns and problems because:

· We need someone who understands and will listen.

· We want someone who hopefully can handle the ugly stuff.

· We don't want to talk to our family or friends because they don't really understand.

But is this the best course of action to be the sounding board?

Is there a possibility we can be triggered and overwhelmed not knowing exactly how best to support someone or even have an idea of how to lead them out of a dark tunnel?

If we agree to be the ear to support someone in need, we risk:

· Get confused about whether we should just listen or give some guidance or advice.

· Asking too many of the wrong questions, responding incorrectly and perhaps giving the wrong advice or information.

· Not knowing the best next steps to guide the conversation and how to guide the person experiencing the dark place.

If we agree to put in the time and effort to be there, this can lead to:

· Our focus, time and energy being diverted and sucked dry.

· Our own mind and emotions being sabotaged, putting our well-being at risk.

· Being triggered and also drawn down the dark hole.

My choice to get trained as a coach, supporting business leaders and executives, also included a deep dive into a few different modalities to support mental fitness, understanding neuroscience, NLP and Time Line Therapy. The Warrior Programme in the UK, endorsed many years ago by Prince Charles, supports those suffering from PTSD and Trauma. The results program participants experienced were astounding and literally life-changing. The track record was undeniable. I needed to learn the modality and include it in my practice.

This HUGE challenge presented itself and I was willing to step up. I was confident I could help her achieve some extraordinary results, and we did.

When we decide and commit to taking 100% responsibility for our life and our well-being our whole life can change. When we commit to and learn how to manage our thoughts and emotions, rid ourselves of negative emotions, limiting beliefs and decisions, and align our values, the ability to focus on our goals and what we want increases a hundredfold. It is no longer the same struggle. We actually experience more ease and flow, less brain fog and more focus.

Resolving issues, challenges, and even PTSD and Trauma changes everything - family dynamics, relationships, career, business, finances, spirituality and our physical, emotional and mental health.

I am a testament to real tangible shifts in my health and physical well-being. And I sought out help to ensure I succeeded.

When we are in trouble, challenged and struggling, we need to shift our mindset, and we can take the first steps by:

· Taking the time to think and gain clarity around what we don't want and do want for the rest of our life.

· Going within to think about what could possibly be causing our problems.

· Investing the time and energy into self-care and prioritizing our well-being above everything and everyone else.

· Understanding we don't have to do it alone. We can seek out someone we can trust, who understands.

· Choosing to speak with a coach who has the strength to hear the ugly stuff without getting triggered, who is experienced and trained to help us navigate through the dark to not only see the light but step fully into it.

It's time to get your blooming life in order.