It's Time To Get Honest About Change

Stuck, stagnant, trapped, cornered. Which word do you relate to in terms of your life? We can all relate to one, if not all, of these terms at one point or another.

Are you stuck in your marriage, debt, or chronic illness?

Are you feeling stagnant at work or perhaps in your friend group?

Are you trapped in your feelings, mental space, or body?

Are you cornered by fear of the unknown or by what you see and read on your phone, TV, or tablet?

If you’d like to get out of the feelings, thoughts, and place of being stuck, stagnant, trapped, or in a corner, there is a straightforward answer that requires some work - YOU NEED TO MAKE NEW CHOICES for change to happen!

See what I did there with all CAPS! Why? Because you have the power to make the change you seek in your life. However, I bet you are sitting back, waiting for things to change because it’s too hard to change.?

Did I touch a nerve?

Humor me by asking yourself these questions and giving authentic answers:

• Have you forgotten how to lean into your strength?
• Are you afraid to feel uncomfortable?
• When was the last time you acknowledged, if ever, your role in your anxiety, fear, or laziness?
• Do you even know where to begin letting go of people, places, thoughts, and undesirable behaviors?
• How do you begin to make new choices that might leave some questioning your choices and leaving others behind?

Yikes! Are you still with me? Did you answer the above questions? If so, how did your answers make you feel? Empowered? Frustrated? Ready to read more?

I’m serious when I say that you have the power to make the change you seek in your life. How do I know this? Because I am in control of the only thing I can control, which is me and my power. And I’m here to give you a few hints on how I do this for myself and coach others.

#1 - Where you focus your power matters! Are you handing it out like Halloween Candy to whoever pops into your life?

#2 - Understanding your fears is powerful! Are you unknowingly sharing your power with fear by reminding yourself that you feel safer being stuck, angry, frustrated, lonely, mad, sad - basically suffering because you’ve forgotten how awesome you are?

#3 - You are allowed to have desires, but you must take action to achieve what you need! Did you forget that you are a participant in your own life and that your actions and behaviors are allowed to change so you can create the extraordinary life you desire?

#4 - The only one you can change is yourself so STOP waiting for someone else to change so you an get the life you crave! Are you holding on to the hope that people and situations will change so that you can be happy?

There is one word I hear, sometimes in my mind and on the regular from clients: WAITING.

I’m waiting for my husband or kids to see what they have done and will finally be accountable for how they make me feel. I’m not going to say anything to them. I will assume they know what they’ve done to cause me to be this way until things change.

I’m waiting for my boss to see that I deserve a raise. And I’ll continue to complain about my job until things change.

I’m waiting for my parents to see how much they hurt me decades ago so that I can move forward from my past, and I’ll continue to hold a grudge until things change.

I could go on for days with these types of grievances, but I’d rather focus on sharing how you can shift your thoughts and feelings of what you’ve been holding on to way too long, acknowledging why you are where you are today, and activate the changes you crave to thrive forward.

It’s time to get honest.

What do you want out of YOUR life?

Let me rephrase this question. What type of legacy do you want to leave behind?

Remember when you were young, people would ask you what you wanted to be when you grew up? Fireman, Teacher, Doctor, etc?

What if you were asked - Who you want to be when you grow up? Oh, how does that question feel?

Here’s my answer: Who do you want to be when you grow up?

I see myself as a kind, compassionate, and understanding person who shares my time with family and friends, creating memories we can all share with future generations. I will strive to be financially comfortable working for myself or a company with a mission and characteristics that align with my values. When tough times arise, I will do my best to offer support to others only if I have the capacity to share my time, energy, and power with them, as I know they are also in charge of their journey as I am in charge of mine. I will ask for help but know that I’m in charge of actions to make changes in my life, directing me towards what will bring me fulfillment, tenacity, and joy to keep learning and growing into my best self. A realistic part of life is that my career and relationships will probably change, and I know I will probably go through many personal changes. But I believe I will live a beautiful life and leave a generous legacy behind.

Are you ready to discover new choices and navigate the changes you crave?

1. Recognize where you’re focusing your energy and power.
2. Recalibrate your choices towards ones that will direct you to change that support the direction that feels right for you.
3. Remember, the change you seek begins with the choices you make.

If you are interested in unlocking more personal honesty, get curious about why you make your choices, and begin investing in the life you are ready to live, please reach out for support and guidance by clicking here.

Alison Schuh Hawsey, Intuitive Transformation Life Coach, is the life coach you didn’t know you needed until you did.

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