It's Ruff Changing Behaviors
Joan Graci
Brain-Based Coach I Vistage Speaker I TEC Canada Speaker | Author I eLearning & Development Specialist
Just ask our office dog...
As some of you may know, not all of us at APA Solutions and WomanUP conferences walk on two legs. Our company mascot and conference advocate is Winston, a retired show dog who makes sure we all stay on track. He threatens to lick us to death if we don’t get our work done. Talk about a horrible bow-ss!
His owner and resident WomanUP expert Caitlin Pietz went away on a biking adventure for a week, and Winston had to stay at Camp Dogonnit! To put it simply, he had quite the ruff time being away from home. I suggest you put your food down before reading this…he had horrendous bouts of diarrhea brought on by stress-induced panic attacks. He could not get himself to relax to save his life. If only he had applied the skills he learned in our Self-Management and Personal Accountability class…he would have been able to manage his stress in a healthy way and become comfortable in this new environment…
Winston is just like us; he has graduated from the EQ Series, and is now a self-aware emotionally intelligent pooch…or so we thought. He did not use his self-management strategies to persevere through this situation. Instead, he channeled his negative energy into creating a mess for the camp workers to clean up. If only he had checked in with himself, felt his anxiety coming on, and came to terms with it. He could have created a goal for himself: to become comfortable with the uncomfortable. He could have set a reminder in his Apple Collar? to remember his goal. He could have rewarded himself with treats if he met his goal. He should have punished himself by depriving himself of treats since he did not meet his goal (or make one for that matter). He had to learn his lesson the hard way, Caitlin had to change his diet and now makes him practice relaxation techniques every day (see photo). The only way to truly cement something in your brain is through repetition. I’m sure next time Winston goes to Camp Doggonit (if they will have him) he will be able to use his new relaxation techniques to power through his restlessness.
Everyone has their bad days. You may lash out at a fellow co-worker because of something that’s bothering you at home. The best way to manage this stress is by improving your self-control. You can practice by identifying what you are feeling, making an honest determination of the underlying cause, and taking action to break the cycle of negative emotion. The first step is to always be honest with yourself and accept your emotions.
Winston’s stress was brought upon by change, and change is hard for the brain to accept. When you break down your goals into smaller, more-manageable items, they are easier to keep track of. Once Winston finishes his relaxation technique, Caitlin rewards him with a treat because that gives Winston the incentive to continue this practice. You need to reward yourself when you meet your goals as well, otherwise, what’s the point?
WomanUP is proud to present another SheCAN! partnered event leveraging some of APA solutions’ research to drive personal and professional growth called Take Charge of Your Life! Self-Management and Accountability on Monday, August 26th at 6 PM! She CAN improve self-control, and she WILL by participating in our interactive discussion! Winston may even make a guest appearance (if he meets his goals that week). He is an avid supporter of the WomanUP conferences and wants to meet you all! As you continue on the journey to the best version of yourself we look forward to seeing you. Click here to RSVP to this special event.
P.S. No dogs were harmed in the making of this blog. Winston did that to himself, but now he knows how to self-manage. Anything is paw-sible when you know how to self-manage.
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5 年Very clever Joan!??
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5 年Oh yikes! Winston’s “tail” was certainly “doggone” ruff, definitely not a “walk in the park” at first! A change in routine or environment can ruffle anyone’s fur, but we just need to “paws” and evaluate the situation so we can approach it from an open perspective, as well as become aware of the triggers that may cause us to react negatively. I love the bite-sized pieces approach! We are looking for learning more on the 26th — it will certainly be a “treat”!
Brain-Based Coach I Vistage Speaker I TEC Canada Speaker | Author I eLearning & Development Specialist
5 年We'll see you on the 26th! What do you think of Winston's Journey? Jean Filipiak,?Peggy A Sullivan, MaryAnne Cappon, Ashley Falletta, JoAnne Alaimo, Linda Crist, Linda Bucher