???? “It’s Not Me, It’s You… And Also Your Money” ????

Ah, love and money—two of the biggest forces in our lives. Yet, one of them often gets completely ignored in relationships… until it’s too late.

Sure, we all hear, “Communication is key in relationships”, but let’s be real—if love was only about communication, therapists wouldn’t be booked out six months in advance. The truth? One of the biggest dealbreakers in relationships (and life) isn’t just how you talk—it’s how you and your partner handle money.

?? Your Relationship With Money = Your Relationship With People

Think of money like a friend. If you constantly tell your friend they’re too much to handle or a huge responsibility—how often do you think they’ll want to be around you? Probably not much. Now, what if you ignored them completely, acted like they didn’t exist, or only called when you needed something? Yep, they’d ghost you faster than a bad first date.

Money works the same way. If you avoid it, stress about it, or only think about it when you don’t have enough, you’re setting yourself up for a toxic relationship.

Also, if you’re in a relationship with a person, too? Oh boy—buckle up.

?? Love + Money = The Ultimate Power Couple (If You Do It Right)

Here’s the thing—42% of people with depression say money negatively impacts their mental health, and up to 40% of divorces are caused by financial disagreements.

That’s because money isn’t just math—it’s emotion.

You and your partner don’t need to have the same wealth archetype. One of you might be a “YOLO spender,” while the other is a “Doomsday saver.” The key isn’t changing each other—it’s understanding what you’re both working toward and making a plan together.

Instead of: “You spend too much.”

? Try: “How can we budget for fun while still hitting our goals?”

Instead of: “You never want to enjoy life.”

? Try: “How can we create financial security so we can stress less and enjoy more?”

?? Pro Tip: Take 15 minutes to write down your top 3 financial priorities separately. Then compare. Where do they align? Where do they differ? That’s where your real conversation starts.

?? Free Resources to Strengthen Your (Money) Relationship

?? Unmask Your Wealth Superpower! – Discover your wealth archetype and how it influences your financial decisions. Access Quiz Here!

?? The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel – Explore the emotional aspects of wealth and behavior. Available on Amazon

?? Bottom Line: Money Isn’t the Enemy—Disconnection Is

Whether you’re single, married, or still trying to explain “situationship” to your grandma, your relationship with money and your approach to finances in relationships will shape your future. Don’t let it be the third wheel which ruins everything—make it the teammate which helps you win.