*it’s a lonely world* A Powerful Remedy: Showing Up For Yourself & Building Connections

I hosted a group of early-career women recently to discuss my new book, Confidence Unleashed. One of the first things they said–and agreed upon– was that they were relieved to realize that they weren’t alone. They were relieved to realize the challenges I wrote about in the book, not only affected them but other people as well.

They talked about how lonely it felt often being the only woman (or woman of color) in the room. They used the word “lonely” several times.

They’re definitely not alone.

I recently listened to this podcast with Dr. Adam Grant, Overcoming Loneliness with Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, and I can’t stop thinking about it. They talk about the "epidemic of loneliness and isolation" in the United States, with up to 60% of Americans feeling lonely. Seemingly, the pandemic has broken many of our connections, and our social skills–the ones responsible for building connections–have atrophied. (Additionally, the heightened political discourse and election-related anxiety have taken a toll as well!)

These numbers are even higher for women and women of color in the workplace, as it’s natural to feel “on the outside”. Being the only woman—or woman of color—in a professional setting can often lead to feelings of isolation and impact mental well-being. There’s a unique weight to navigating spaces where you feel unseen or outnumbered.

“Women of color often face compounded challenges, including higher standards and fewer opportunities, leading to increased stress and isolation.” – Hannah Jean-Pierre, SHE WORKS Program Manager

This makes the importance of putting yourself out there—to make connections and build meaningful relationships—even more important. (It's not just about networking for career advancement!) Actively connecting in a supportive, female affinity space provides a powerful remedy. It’s here that women find camaraderie, shared experiences, and a renewed sense of belonging. These connections remind us that we’re not alone, fueling both resilience and confidence to thrive.

Considering that, individuals spend about 90,000 hours (or one-third) of their lives working, it’s important to invest in positive workplace relationships.?

“It’s essential for women to show up for themselves! Remember, you are not alone—it’s about connecting with other women who share similar experiences. Allyship and community will be integral to your success.” – Kiana White, Boeing Human Resources Business Partner

Here's how to show up for yourself:

1. Join A Community: Find a community that resonates with you and focus on building meaningful relationships. To clarify, the purpose here isn’t networking for career advancement, but rather having someone you can call when you’ve been slighted at work. This could be a company ERG (Employee Resource Group), a women’s network (e.g., Let It Break, Ellevate), a local professional group, or an online community.
2. Be Intentional in Relationship-Building: Try setting a goal to meet one new person each month. Start with virtual coffee chats, or follow up after an event, making the most of LinkedIn or other social networks to stay connected.
3. Engage in Skill-Building Programs: Many organizations and industry associations offer workshops, events, and cohorts specifically for women or other underrepresented groups. Joining these programs not only helps you grow professionally but also builds meaningful, lasting connections.
4. Create Your Own Circle: Sometimes, the best support system is one you create. At LiveGirl, we are launching CREWs (Confident. Resilient. & Educated Women). Consider forming a small accountability or networking group with colleagues or friends in similar fields. Meeting regularly can provide both professional guidance and personal connection.
5. Volunteer for Causes You Care About: Volunteering outside of work can open doors to new connections and broaden your network while aligning with your values.

By taking small, consistent steps to connect with others, it's possible to transform that sense of loneliness into a supportive network that truly uplifts.

?? Meeting with so many brilliant women on my Confidence Unleashed mini-book tour! (Photo @ University of Connecticut Women In Business)

?? Disclaimer with Cate Blanchett (on the edge of my seat!)

?? Fall foliage hikes --- This fall was the most glorious ever in New England!!