IT'S NOT JUST YOU KID
Are You Estranged From A Family Member?
Let’s end the shame and guilt around family estrangement instead of making people feel failures for choosing to suspend relationships with key people which aren’t necessarily good for them.
It's time to stop heaping shame and guilt on what is already an extremely challenging situation.
If this is you, please remember that very few families live a real version of The Waltons. If you have experienced difficulties with a parent, sibling or even your own child, you will be struggling with emotions that are uncomfortable and embarrassing to express.
Everywhere you look, we are force-fed images of what perfect families should look like, but it's a Disney version and rarely exists. If we dare speak to others about our situation, we are labelled as disloyal. Especially if it's to do with parents; we're often told they gave you life, as if this is a licence for ownership, so that they can behave however they want. It's coming up to Mother's Day, which is difficult for many of us, especially if we experienced a less than ideal upbringing. The trouble is that these relationships are often unresolved as we navigate into adulthood, and we are now carrying the guilt and shame, for choosing our own wellbeing over abuse.
We need to let go of the fixation on societal ideals. You’re not alone. Please help someone just like you feel less alone by typing who you’re estranged from, so #mother #father #sister #brother #daughter #son
It’s time to heal. It’s time to connect. It might be worth a conversation. I'm already having several as it turns out, I've hit a ruddy great raw nerve. I'm in the process of creating a healing programme around this, and I need your help please. I want to understand as much as possible, so that I can be of service.
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Maybe you will explore a way back, maybe it’s best you leave it there. Either way, you deserve peace.
If this is triggering for you, be assured that there is some wonderful healing that can bring you contentment in your decision making, through guided meditation and visualisation, both in and out of trance.
No fear and much love,
Tanya x
ERP IT Trainer | Change Consultant | Writer | Entrepreneur
1 年It's good you bringing awareness to this. It can be isolating when you can't share feelings about a family estrangement. I had a scenario last year when I shared with a friend about a difficult relationship with a family member. They shut me down immediately with "Well... you don't need to take it....". It's horrible when people are attempting to invalidate your experience.
Advocate for Sustainability and Environmental Change
1 年This is likely to resonate with most people Tanya, well said. Hanna Longstaff will also find this interesting.
Experienced NPO professional aspiring to eagerly share my expertise & knowledge with a new NGO/NPO. Aiming to work in a humanitarian aid position, preferably sustainable bulk feeding , distribution & skills training
1 年#sister