It’s Hard to Fake Marriage… for Long
Jacob Kinyanjui, Ph.D, PMP, PSM
Project Management Trainer & Consultant
When a woman has a good husband, it’s written all over her face. A letter from the heart can be read on the face. There are men who never hang out with their wives. I can do without a morning cup of coffee, but not without cuddling my Mercy. To woo a woman to be your wife is an art, to create a fulfilling marriage with her require maturity.
There’s an old wise saying from Uganda, “He who loves, love you with your dirt.” Mature men don’t hunt for younger girls after their wife’s breasts sag for breastfeeding their children. Your love for her should be like the misty rain, coming softly but flooding the river. In ancient Egypt they warned girls, “If you marry a monkey for its wealth, the money goes and the monkey remains.”
Many are the roads that do not lead to the heart. When a marriage is working, the man longs to go home from work. The woman is excited to see him back. The kids are sad when daddy leaves. He who loves a thing often talks of it. How often does he brag about you? If she calls you brother, you’re probably no more than her business partner. How have you saved him in your phone?
If you notice a woman who never talks when the husband is around, the man is a bully no matter his public relations prowess. Free souls freely express. As often said, peace is not the absence of war. Absence of verbal and physical conflicts in marriage is not synonymous to marriage stability. Most relational conflicts are emotional – deep rooted wounds that eventually explode.
But you don’t need to act in your marriage. You don’t need to fake it till you make it. You can live a life of peace, joy, respect and love, EVERY DAY. All good will be attacked. The surest defense in your marriage is investing in your marriage. Marriage does not work; marriage is caused to work. Marriage does not work by chance; marriage works by change. Changing from assumptions and retrogressive attitude and behavior, and embracing love, honor and growth.
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DR. K. N. JACOB