Issue No.11 On limiting beliefs

Recently, I was reviewing the journal where I took notes about all the coaching sessions I've had so far and I noticed a pattern concerning the main obstacle people have in achieving their objectives. Can you guess what's the one thing that consistently holds people back from reaching their goals? Limiting beliefs.

Now, I'm not talking about the kind of beliefs that keep you safe and sane, like "I probably shouldn't jump off this cliff." I'm talking about the ones that make you doubt yourself and your abilities. The ones that say, "I can't do this," or "I'm not good enough."

These beliefs are like little gremlins in your mind, constantly chattering away and sabotaging your efforts. They make you second-guess yourself, hesitate, and ultimately give up before you even try.

But here's the thing: these beliefs are all in your head. They're not based on fact or reality. They're just stories you've been telling yourself for so long that you've started to believe them.

So, how do you overcome them? Well, the first step is to recognize them for what they are: limiting beliefs. Once you can identify them, you can start to challenge them.

• Ask yourself: is this belief really true? Is there any evidence to support it? More often than not, you'll find that the answer is no.
• Then, start to reframe your thinking. Instead of "I can't do this," try "I haven't done this yet, but I'm willing to learn." Instead of "I'm not good enough," try "I have strengths and weaknesses, and I'm working on improving."
• Finally, surround yourself with people who believe in you and support your goals. Positive reinforcement goes a long way in helping you overcome those pesky limiting beliefs.

So, my message to you is this: don't let those little gremlins hold you back. Challenge your beliefs, reframe your thinking, and go after your goals with everything you've got.

??Newsroom

• Deliberate doubt is the practice of actively questioning our beliefs and assumptions. It is about suspending our certainty and letting go of our preconceived notions to explore new ideas and perspectives.
• The Semmelweis Reflex bias , and why people continue to believe things which are proved wrong.
• Although we think we are fully aware and in control of our everyday decisions, we actually often follow a series of cognitive scripts.
• Magnification and Minimization: Two “Binocular Tricks” of the Mind.
• Memory biases: Why your memories aren’t as reliable as they seem.

???Book of the week

There is indeed a Gremlin in your head, and he’s out to make you miserable. Left to do his thing, he’ll zap your health, foul up your relationships, dampen your creativity, hamper your productivity, drive you into low-down funks, and wind you up into fits of anxiety. That’s where this book comes in to help you with tools you can use, starting now, to become a first-rate Gremlin-Tamer.

??Surprise of the week.

???Tools & practices

• You can’t defeat an adversary that you don’t see or one that successfully pretends to be your friend. The first step to conquering your Saboteurs is to identify them and expose their lies and limiting beliefs.
• The Work by Byron Katie is a powerful and transformative method that helps individuals identify and question their thoughts and beliefs. It involves a series of questions that challenge the validity of limiting beliefs and can help individuals gain clarity and shift their perspective.
• Meditation: Uprooting Limiting Beliefs with RAIN . This short meditation guides us in using RAIN (recognize-allow-investigate-nurture) when we discover we are caught in a limiting belief.
• An NLP coaching technique to fix a limiting belief in 4 ways.
• A powerful exercise to stop letting self-limiting beliefs dictate your life . Use this 3-minute exercise to step into your best self.

??Podcast of the week

Jim Kwik is a widely recognized world expert in brain performance, mental fitness and memory improvement. After a childhood brain injury left him with learning challenges, Kwik created strategies to dramatically enhance his cognitive performance. He has since dedicated his life to helping others unleash their true genius and brainpower. is the author of the NY Times and #1 WSJ bestseller: “Limitless - Upgrade Your Brain, Learn Anything Faster, Unlock Your Exceptional Life.” Jim tells us about the power of choice and how transformation is just like a butterfly inside a cocoon. He also talks about rejecting a limit from someone we love and how we can break free from a limitation.

???Video Of The Week

95% of everything we know, from our behaviours and emotions to our beliefs and even our personality comes from the subconscious mind. Using humour and engagement, Dr Irum Tahir teaches how to access the subconscious mind to transform deep patterns which cause us anxiety, pain and feelings of failure and create a life full of happiness, fulfilment and joy.

??Food for thought

• What beliefs do I have about myself that hold me back from achieving my goals?
• How do I talk to myself when faced with challenges or setbacks?
• What evidence do I have to support these beliefs, and is that evidence accurate or biased?
• What would happen if I let go of these limiting beliefs and replaced them with more empowering ones?
• How do these limiting beliefs affect my relationships with others, and how do they impact my overall sense of wellbeing?
• What steps can I take to challenge and overcome these limiting beliefs, and how can I hold myself accountable for making those changes?
• How can I use my strengths and past successes to reinforce more positive and empowering beliefs about myself and my potential?

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Thank you for reading me,

Cosmina