International Women's Day

INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY

A Hard Pill To Swallow

(Why I can’t bring myself to celebrate “Women’s Day’)

I hate to be the voice of doom, but it has to be said. I am writing this as a woman, mother and as a grandmother. There are many women fighting women’s corner and yes many of us face problems every day, but so do men. Why do I feel ashamed when I see what we have allowed to happen to our children, while we are busy chasing things that I feel are useless?

Womankind is granted the privilege of bringing human life into the world. Having this privilege gives us the responsibility for our children. There is a rot that is slowly setting into our children’s lives. That is the subject on which I feel women should unite.

So, what is there to celebrate here in the UK and most of the world? Our young people are killing each other and carrying knives to protect themselves. Over one hundred thousand young people are sleeping rough in the streets. We may think that this has nothing to do with us as individuals and it is all too easy to lay the blame on the government and police. Let’s think again and use some common sense because this and the last two generations are responsible. A bad tree will only bear bad fruits. We are reaping what we have sown. Surely, I’m not the only one that looks around and sees decay.

Women believe our daughters have been empowered, but along the way they have managed to put the oldest profession out of business. Young women drink heavily and are loose. These days no man has to pay for a prostitute, unless he really is dumb. I am saddened that our daughters do not seem to appreciate their virginity. Let's face it, as far is nature is concerned, it's a women's most revered calling card though modern women will argue that a woman's brain is more important. Everyone has a brain and a woman has always been able to do whatever she puts her mind to, if she is willing to fight hard. After all anything worth having has never been easy. I find it a bitter pill to swallow when I see the open legs attitude adopted by young girls through a misguided sense of power. When a young woman's body is willingly and easily given away, the girl has nothing left of her dignity or her great power. This lack of respect for womanhood results in the killing and destruction of millions of innocent unborn babies. What are we celebrating that is really important, that we can look back on and be proud of in our old age?

We are playing God with the lives of our young women. We claim we are empowering them, but we forget that we are not gods, that only God can empower. We are not able to empower ourselves, yet we are trying to empower others. We have each of us been empowered already. God saw to that. The problem is when we don’t see the power we already have, in actual fact women are built to take stress, nurture, bring up and protect mankind. Under the guise of population control we confess that it is our "choice" to kill unborn babies, ignorantly depriving future generations of their soul mates. With AIDS, other viruses and now the Coronavirus it is obvious that nature through pestilence will deal with population control in her own way.

How do we empower a person if we can’t predict their future or destiny? Can we all have identical lives? Not even identical twins can have the same journey in life. So how can we think we have the power to change everything. I know life is never going to be fair, equal, easy, perfect or easily understood. I love that people are imperfect and that life is unpredictable. Every time we try to change things on demand, to suit our selfish nature, we cause an imbalance elsewhere and that is trying to play God and will never end happily.

Let’s acknowledge that there are so much more to be done in the lives of our young people. Let’s get together as women in our various communities and do what women do best. Let’s be mothers to our young people. Let’s respect and acknowledge older people. Let’s work at being the community that gives young people a sense of value and belonging. Community centres used to be organised by volunteers and caring people in the community, let’s bring back youth clubs and mentoring by mothers. These days we expect the government to run and pay for everything. Let’s create real community spirit and do things for ourselves. Who needs government when we should be responsible for ourselves and our children. Where our children are concerned, when we pass all responsibilities to the government, their upbringing, education, health, food, safety, mental health and accommodation, then our children will owe us nothing, neither will they respect us, they have not seen us sacrifice anything for them. We will regret this in the near future because we have not taken responsibility for bringing up our children. Every community and society need real, natural, strong, powerful, caring and God-fearing women. The government cannot bring up your child.

When will we have Men’s Day? They don’t feel the need for a “Men’s Day”. Do women really feel inferior and need a women’s day to help them feel equal?

Men have never been superior to women, nor will they ever be. Most men will tell you this. That is one of the reasons men would resort to any means to control women. To men a woman is like an enigma inside an enigma. She can achieve greatness, or she can reduce herself to nothing. The choice is hers and hers alone.

As Sir William Golding said: “I think women are foolish to pretend they are equal to men, they are far superior and always have been. Whatever you give a woman, she will make it greater. if you give her sperm, she’ll give you a baby. If you give her a house, she’ll give you a home. If you give her grocery, she’ll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she’ll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of shit!” 

In the past many women, including my mother who had nine children, were able to look after the family and still hold down a business at the same time and all this during a war. But now our generation has become so weakened that we believe it has to be either children or career.

Our sons, whether they are white, black, red or yellow are in-need of a strong, motherly figure in their lives. The bond between a mother and her son is very strong, let’s use it to guide them in the right direction, so that they will be the kind of men in whose hands we would feel safe when we are old.

With these unsettling thoughts, I find it hard and sad to celebrate Women’s Day.

Dr Patti Boulaye OBE