The Interesting Things About Having Someone To Talk With

Have you ever imagined what initiating a conversation with a stranger would look like?

Have you ever felt suddenly blank in the middle of a conversation, not knowing the next question to ask your romantic partner again?

You are not alone!

Conversations are like metal links, we meet strangers every day from office to workshop to parties, and other places of interest. Conversations can spark war or breathe peace. Every person or friend in our lives today were strangers whom we knew nothing about until we had our first conversation with them.

Because every stranger comes with an opportunity to learn something new, you can learn from their experiences or hear a story that you've never heard before. You must make an intentional effort to initiate conversations with strangers. And until you make that first move and let out the first words, it will always seems impossible.

It takes an incredible amount of courage to skip the rhetoric of “[hello-hi], [how are you-I'm fine], [what's going on-same old], [so tell me what's new…??]”... and ask strangers any kind of personal questions. We need to ask really personal questions because that is where the energy to open up lies.

Personal questions will make a stranger wonder why you want to know about their family, business, political interests, musical preferences, and so on. And at the same time makes the stranger grateful for you wanting to get to know more about her. This is what makes conversations a memorable one.

Conversations should not begin with arguments. It becomes a lot easier to continue any conversation if we can find a common ground and talk about our similarities. No matter our differences in culture, background, and habits… There will always be something about the other person that we too are familiar with, and that should be the starting point of our conversations.

It is strangely wonderful that there are people who have the “compliment immunity syndrome”. If compliments like “you're beautiful” no longer brightens your face, it is most probably because you have heard it “a million times”, and it just sounds more like a cliché to you over time.

We should try our best to always give a full-hearted and genuine compliment that can inspire a genuine feeling, a genuine smile and a genuine “thank you” because people will forget what you say and what you do, but they will never forget how you made them feel.

We can make our conversations juicy by asking for the opinion of the other person. And after asking, listening attentively is the best pleasure we can give that person. We should seek to understand, then seek to be understood.

Why must we maintain eye contact during conversations? Why isn't it good to multitask when talking with a person? Why should we remember little details about people like their names and ask about their wife, girlfriend, the places they've been to, their children's name- Because we need to make other people feel important, as much as we need their validation.

A conversation that started with a “Hi” can end with a marriage proposal.

A conversation that started with a “Hello” can end with a business deal.

If you want to turn more strangers into friends, you must LIKE conversations

If you really want to turn more friends to clients, you must MASTER the art of conversation. Mastering doesn't mean you have to be as fluent and articulate as an orator, just be original.

“A conversation is like reading a book. You can turn to any page you want. You can flip to your favorite chapter. You can read for as long as you want and read what you want. And every person, trust me, is a really good book” — Malavika Varadan

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