The Intangible Edge

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In this 8 week series, I want to share 8 skills that can make all the difference in your journey to success. This week, we start with one of the most transformative yet underrated abilities: Reading the Room.

Skill No. 1: Reading the Room

What truly sets people apart? What are those skills that can be key to success or failure?

In my view, they are not just about the hard skills or raw talent. Often, the difference between success and mediocrity lies in the subtle and the intangibles.

So, What Is ‘Reading the Room’?

• Reading the room is the ability to pick up insights from words, body languages and group dynamics in a meeting.
• It’s about more than just hearing words. It’s understanding what’s behind those words understanding motivations, detecting negativity or boredom and adapting on the fly. This skill provides the flexibility to change the tone or direction of the meeting in your favor.
• To Read the Room is to anticipate and to have the ability to pivot based on the subtle hints captured from the body language of your audience.
• Reading the room is the ability to pivot the script and ability respond to the intent and not just the words.

Here are some examples of why it is critical to be able to 'Read the room'

• A Presentation That Falls Flat: Ever seen a presentation that drags on endlessly? You can feel the audience slipping away, bored, disengaged. But if you can sense it in time, you can change course. Ditch the deck, tell a story, or ask a question that snaps them back to attention. That’s reading the room.
• Interviews are the same. If the panel seems uninterested, most people push forward on autopilot. Big mistake. The smart one's notice, adapt, and tell a story that resonates—a story that matters.
• In a meeting, there’s always someone hesitant about your idea. Instead of bulldozing through, pick up on their concern. Bring it up yourself. Address it head-on. Turn resistance into understanding. That’s influence.

How to master this skill?

1. Watch the room. Look beyond words—notice the body language, the expressions.

2. Listen intently, don’t just wait to speak. There’s a difference.

3. Understand the ‘why’ behind the words. What’s the intention here?

4. Feel the group dynamics. Every room has a rhythm—learn to move with it.

Do let me know your thoughts on how high you rate this skill of reading the room as a key to success

Stay tuned next week for another skill that can transform your impact, no matter your field.

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