Inspirational Insights into Conscious Flow - 9th issue
In this newsletter “Inspirational Insights into Conscious Flow,” you will be introduced to the following topics:-
Motherhood
Being a mother is my happy, peaceful place.?I love being a mother.?My inner joy, inner contentment, inner satisfaction, and just being with my children cannot be put into words and cannot be justified with words.?Yes, there is also a sense of sadness.?Not being with all my children and grandchildren is sad.?Deep sadness, even deep sorrow, is experienced during times of disconnection. ?
It is not about not being in the same room.?The disconnection is felt when differences in perceptions and beliefs take on more importance than the love that exists. ?
It is usual for children to follow their own life paths to make a life for themselves and their families.?Letting go and embracing new journeys when children move far away and taking their children with them brings about fears of disconnection. ?
My joy lies in the connection, in the knowledge and then the being of the fullness of life.?Gratitude fills the empty spaces until the subsequent experience of great contentment when I see my children living their lives forward with their families, enjoying being mothers themselves.?The joy I see in them as they appreciate the experiences with their children and their families and being part of the circle of life.?
I appreciate that I am merely a link from the past to the future.
What does being a mother mean??
I don't know what it is for you.?But for me being a mother is the most sacred of spiritual experiences.?Being a mother is not about me.?It is just about caring and sharing the experience of a life's journey.?Being a mother simply is the experience of every moment that comes and lasts between my children and me.?It is the experience of every connection that is merely as it is, and yes, the most regret and sorrow come with disconnections that happen along the way.?That is also part of being a mother.?Most disconnections occur when either, the mother or child, struggles to function after or through the experience of trauma.?Trauma greatly challenges any relationship.?You can grow from and through trauma or work and be controlled by trauma.?Trauma changes the way an individual perceives the world.?New belief systems are formed.
It is being able to experience a love that is beyond understanding.?
A mother's love is an experience of an enduring love beyond containment—the awareness of the existence of this sacredness in the appreciation of all that is beyond within.
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Embracing the journey with and through addiction
The role of the facilitator when dealing with issues of self-harm and addiction is delicate.??
We set up a constellation to learn where we, as facilitators, could create a healing space for teenagers with suicidal ideations. How could a family constellation help? What would we need to bring into consideration??
In Family Constellations, we look for the patterns in the family system that would bring about belief systems and behaviours. What is the entanglement of a suicidal teenager in the system that we as facilitators need to become aware of? The constellation was set up as general learning with no focus on a particular family.??
What I learned took me by surprise.??
As a parent, the appearance of suicidal ideation in a child is scary. I asked myself how I would cope with that. The emotional helplessness would be overwhelming in the exposure to hurt and pain that my child expresses in self-harm.
As a facilitator, I needed to step aside from being a parent. What is the more extensive consideration in this phenomenon of suicidal ideation in teenagers???
We set up the teenager, their parents and their current worldview of treatment with prescribed medication. The teenager stood alone and rejected the medication treatment vehemently. This phenomenon took me to my first surprise. The parents, however, were immediately drawn to the medication. This phenomenon, for me, was unexpected.??
Firstly, it was clear that the parents could not support their children as they had the difficulties and struggles they were dealing with. In a way, it showed that the child required parental attention.??
Parents that are entangled in the addiction of one form or another cannot give the required attention to their children. Their attention is fixed on their addiction.??
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Addiction is defined as a chronic, relapsing disorder characterised by compulsive drug seeking, continued use despite harmful consequences, and long-lasting changes in the brain. It is considered both a complex brain disorder and a mental illness.
I want to change the above description of addiction to include all forms of addiction. Some habits appear to be harmless but have a similar effect on how brain chemistry functions.??
Addiction is a chronic, relapsing disorder characterised by compulsive?pleasure /attention-seeking, continued use despite?any?consequences and long-lasting changes in the brain. It is considered both a complex brain disorder and a mental illness.
Any behaviour which takes a focus away from a balanced life can become an addiction that destroys a family. Addiction is self-destructive on many levels. We saw in this constellation that, on a deep subconscious level, the child does not want to break free from the family pattern. They were seeking solutions elsewhere in the form of therapy. The child wanted to feel heard and acknowledged, but that would also give the parents a voice and acknowledgement other than the chemical balancing system. The most significant relief for the child was when the parents acknowledged the child and the child's needs as being different to theirs.
Where should treatment for the suicidal teenager be focused?
It has long been my view, and this constellation supported it, that parents who struggle with addiction or otherwise should become the parents they seek to be, when the parent is brought into the field of wholeness, the child benefits.
Once we had addressed the parents' need to enter a healing journey, the child felt relieved. Then the child could be encouraged into its healing journey with all treatments that would offer support, including prescribed medication.
As facilitators, we learned that we needed to embrace the parents' journey of difficulties faced and challenges overcome. Family Constellations support the parent's journey with and through their addictions to embrace their wholeness.??
29 May 2022?-?Coaching with Systemic Constellations
Online
This workshop focuses on strategies and decisions that you may struggle with.
This is a group workshop.
The group participation supports you in setting up your Constellation, as you participate for other members in the group to set up their Constellation.?Healing, insights, and learning are valuable gifts that you take away from each other’s Constellation.
If you would not like a constellation set up for you, please select the Observer option.
Different monthly themes?allow creating the opportunity to explore questions and different constellation movements.??
Learning and knowing is different from experience.?The insights you gain from these workshops will give you the confidence to facilitate transformational shifts within yourself as well as when working with your clients.
You will receive the Zoom link upon booking.
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