Insights on Love and How It Fades Away

Some people tend to fall in love fast, easily, and often. This tendency is known as emophilia, formerly known as “emotional promiscuity.”

No matter what your situation, it can be totally normal to wonder why love fades?over time — and how you can stop it.

The truth is, there's no fool-proof way to keep the love alive.

Understanding how our brains play a role can help you protect yourself, and your relationship, from the erosion of time.

Does Love Lose Its Intensity With Time?

It is measured with items such as: I fall in love easily. I feel romantic connections right away.

I love the feeling of falling in love.

I fall in love frequently.

I tend to jump into relationships.

Emophilia is distinct from a number of other traits that also predict developing fast romantic connections.

For example, what draws someone with emophilia to love is the fact that those feelings are rewarding.

The slow fade is the charade that someone puts on when they decide to end a relationship but don’t share their decision.

The slow fade isn’t kind, it’s a form of gas lighting that can cause emotional damage.

?By contrast, persons with anxious?attachment styles often jump into relationships quickly as well, but not because of a reward?motivation—they’re motivated by inhibition or avoidance of a negative emotional state.

Falling in love fast and often might sound exciting and romantic, but there might also be a dark side as well.

Specifically, if you’re always primed to fall in love and find yourself charmed by others very quickly a ….“Love at first sight” kind of thing.

?This might make you prone to ignoring relationship “red flags” and falling for the “wrong” types of people—people who might use your quick attachment to manipulate you.

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Thank you?….Some guys assume that they are allowed or welcome to flirt with a woman. A guy like that will switch into just being nice, friendly and polite when talking to her or texting her.

Yet, there are no rules that say you can’t flirt.

You can.

In fact, it’s one of the fastest ways to make her have sexual and romantic feelings for you.

For example: When you meet up and see her looking pretty, don’t be afraid to smile, look her up and down and say,?“Wow, someone’s looking pretty.”

That does not ‘give her too much power’ or show too much interest or any other insecure thing that some guys worry about.

As a man, you can freely say those things without appearing needy or desperate and instead, appearing confident as you flirt with her.

Do you want to add a word or two?

How?

Don’t say it from a needy place (i.e. don’t say it thinking,?“I hope this makes her want me).

Just say it because you’re a confident, self-assured man who isn’t afraid to express his attraction and knows that no matter what he says, he is always in the one up position in terms of dominance and value.

When you come from that place, women feel magnetically attracted to you.

It’s not something women tell me though, of course.

Women don’t want men getting the wrong idea and thinking that they need to act like they are so much better than a woman, or so much more dominant.

Instead, women simply gravitate towards men who understand how a woman’s attraction really works.

It’s a private understanding between men and women that doesn’t need to be spoken about between men and women.

Instead, you just need to do it. When you do, women feel attracted to you.

Your Comments …..

For some people, sex isn’t that important. For others, it’s the basis of a healthy relationship.

Wherever you are on the libido-scale, a decrease in how much sex you’re having is still a warning sign that your feelings may have changed.

Whether you’re no longer finding your partner physically attractive, or feel guilty about sleeping with them whilst being aware of a shift in your feelings, this is something you need to face.

When you meet with her, you can --Adjust your approach and show her by way of your attitude, behavior, conversation style and actions

React differently to what she says and does (e.g. if she’s being closed off, cold and distant, rather than being extra nice and sweet to her in the hope that she will open up, use ballsy, challenging humor to bring down her defenses instead.

Women love that type of humor, as long as you are doing it in good spirits).

An example is if she says,?“I just don’t know if we’re a good match,”?and you laugh and,?“You don’t know much at all. You were always pretty ditzy”.

Make her feel feminine and girly in your presence by thinking, talking, behaving, feeling and acting in a more masculine way, rather than being emotionally sensitive around her and making her feel more dominant and ‘masculine’ than you.

Believe in yourself and in your value to her, rather than feel unworthy. Women want to see that you feel worthy, regardless of how they are treating you (i.e. dumping you for falling in love too fast).

Women respond positively to confidence and negatively to insecurity. So, be confident in yourself, even when you feel like you deserve to feel insecure.

Always believe in yourself no matter what.

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