Insecurity - Boon or Bane?

Insecurity - Boon or Bane?

When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself. – Earl Nightingale

Have you observed these signs in people around you? Or with your own self?

A feeling of inadequacy? A feeling of low self-esteem, low self-confidence, and low self-worth hovering around? A very deep non-quenching feeling of anxiousness, decision-making inabilities diving you into the black hole? Yes, can I say these are traces of insecurity??

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Everyone feels a little unsure at times. As humans, we constantly think, and some of our thoughts can be filled with doubt. This can lead to thoughts of insecurity. Too much insecurity can lead to other problems — in relationships and in our everyday life. However, there are ways we can work through our insecure thoughts and live life more confidently.

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Being insecure with our individualities, our lives, personal relationships, and work, affects us and the people around us a lot. It induces poison in our heads, and we tend to act out to cover those insecurities. But what if we can get to the root cause of it all and work on them? Read up on these reasons that cause insecurity in a human being and try to make your life better by untangling those threads.

Any human being for that matter, does not get insecure without a reason. There may be ample reasons why a person goes insecure.

Traumatic life experiences, the loss of a loved one, being a victim of a violent upbringing, being deprived of love, care in childhood, self-assessment leading to anger, helplessness, mind-blocks, etc. are some of the important causes of insecurities.?

Predominantly, I have seen this happen to many people. Many misunderstand the concept of keeping self-image up “to” putting down others to show their “I-know-it-all” mantra.

Acknowledgment of the unknown realms of life is a very big illusion to many. Wondering how this connects to insecurity? Yes, these people who think this way are insecure. They always want to keep proving themselves to others as they cannot, or they feel to prove worthy of self is not of value.

They need to keep praising themselves, making sure they are perfect, and others are not, making sure others don’t know how to lead their life considering the life of self is perfect! Pure signs of insecurity.

Strong souls never seek approval from anyone, as they are aware of their capabilities.?

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Types of Insecurity

There are almost limitless areas of potential insecurity. Moreover, insecurity often bleeds over from one area of life into another.?However, there are some types of insecurity that appear frequently.

Relationship Insecurity

One of the most common kinds of insecurity concerns relationships or “attachments.”?

Attachment theory originated out of a desire to connect the attachment patterns of early childhood to later relationship patterns and expectations. When a child’s “attachment figures" often parents or guardians, aren’t reliably available and supportive, the child often feels insecure, forms a negative self-image and relationship models, and experiences greater emotional distress and non-adjustments later in life.

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Job Insecurity

Job insecurity occurs when you are anxious about your continued employment or about the continuation of certain benefits attached to your employment. It can be triggered by anxiety over your own job performance or anxiety over factors beyond your control, such as the economy, industry trends, workplace conflict, or the danger of company restructuring or failure.

Body Image Insecurity

A common source of insecurity is body image. Many people feel insecure about the way they look and question whether they measure up to an imposed ideal. There is no necessary connection between actual body health or appearance and body insecurity. People of all body types can experience this type of insecurity.

Social Insecurity/Anxiety

Another common type of insecurity surrounds the way we are perceived by our peers and the ease with which we interact with them. This insecurity can be a recurring, low-level problem or can blossom into full-blown?social anxiety disorder?or social phobia.

Anytime wondered about the difference between insecurity and low self-esteem.

Both low self-esteem and insecurity are characterized by a lack of confidence. Moreover, these negative feelings are associated with a myriad of mental health conditions and disorders. It is possible to overcome both by practicing positive thoughts about oneself and building self-confidence.

Can you identify insecure people just by their talk/behavior? No second thoughts! You can!!?

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Perfectionism?

The inability to be satisfied with progress and the need to control and refine projects until they’re perfect can be a sign of insecurity. It stems from the sensation that you or your performance is never enough.?







Dealing with insecurities, according to me is not a herculean task. It’s a conscious task and mindful practice.?

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Do not compare yourself.

Do not compare yourself to others because it will never lead you anywhere good. Just be true to who you are and do the best that you can! If people like your personality, then they will stay around; if they don’t, then they were never worth your time in the first place.

Talk to someone about your insecurities.

It can be very helpful to talk to a friend or therapist about what you’re struggling with. This will help you gain some insight and start working through your issues.

Challenge your negative thoughts.

When you start to feel insecure, challenge the thoughts that are causing those feelings. Are they true? Or are you just?overthinking things?

Focus on your positive qualities.

Everyone has good and bad qualities, so try to focus on the good ones! When you think about yourself, what are some of the things that you like best? Write them down and refer to them when you’re feeling down about yourself.

Do something that makes you feel good.

When you do something that makes you happy, it can help boost your self-esteem. So go out and enjoy life! Dance, sing, read a book – just do whatever puts a smile on your face.

Accept compliments.

When someone compliments you, accept it! It is easy to brush off compliments or question them. But we should always be gracious and thank the person for their kind words.

Be thankful for your life circumstances.

If there is something that makes you insecure about yourself, remember that many others in the world have much tougher lives than yours. You should be grateful for your life and what you have!

Do not give up.

Just because someone does not like you, doesn’t mean that nobody will. Keep trying and don’t let other people stand in the way of who you are meant to be with! There is a perfect person out there for everyone; it just takes some time to find them.

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Not the end of the world, but to wrap up this article, a few nuggets as a summary can be read through below.

Insecurities are a part of who we are, and it is impossible to get rid of them altogether. However, we can work on managing our insecurities so that they do not control our lives. If you are feeling insecure, be sure to do what feels best for you and to be selective about who you share your insecurities with.

In some cases, it is healthy to reveal our insecurities to others. For example, you might want to talk with a friend about your insecurities and how they affect you. However, it can be harmful to reveal our insecurities on social media or over text because anyone can read them!

In either case, we should never feel ashamed of our feelings of insecurity, as long as we are doing what is best for us and we are taking steps to overcome them!

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Veena BM

Vice President, Global Head of R&D(S&S), Site leader at Signify Innovation Labs

1 年

Well written Swathi..

Rashmi DR

Project Manager Advisor , Certified Scrum Master , Google Project Management Professional Certified

1 年

Good work swathi

Vijaya Annapurna

Global Product Manager

1 年

Swathi Jagannath very apt n relevant - you summarized it all. Apt for *Mental Health* Keep ?? ??

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