Inner Confidence & Self-Validation

Self-efficacy, intrinsic motivation, and confidence are the top three factors Coaches are taught to be aware of when it comes to being able to help others transform their realities.

Why? Because we live in a world where as soon as we start to develop skillsets and are able to accomplish certain things - we are rewarded. Whether it is verbal praise, sweet treats for celebration, or an allowance for a good performance (physical or academic).

What this creates is a lot of compare and despair. We begin to think, if I do ___ I will get ___. Or if I have ___ I will be seen as ___.

Overtime this compounds into a subconscious application that strips away inner confidence, detaches you from your core values and can put you on a path where you do things you do not necessarily enjoy and/or believe in - merely to 'fit in' and have external validation.

Validation being the second important part of this reflection.

Self-validation is a skill that involves acknowledging and accepting your inner experiences as valid. It's the ability to celebrate your achievements, practice self-love, accept your emotions, challenge negative self-talk and take pride in the things you like. (regardless of what the people around you think)

When you seek/need external validation it takes away your belief and autonomy that you know best (you are in control). This will put you in a path of a reactive way of living.

Most people do not believe they can reform their self-care or master their health and wellness.

There is an enormous gap between wanting to be well and the everyday reality of living with the physical and mental consequences of overeating, under-exercising, and having too little downtime to recharge one's batteries.

In the coaching vs medical space, there is a lot of research showing that we as individuals need to push against the path of 'directive' communication. Medical professionals are trained to deliver prescriptions and advice, and they often don't have enough time to work with their clients to actually be able to help them but the expert approach subtly lets client/patient off the hook, sending the subtle message: you are not in charge.

Lifestyle-related chronic diseases, heart disease, stroke, and cancer account for 50% of deaths, whereas obesity, prediabetes, and diabetes are reaching epidemic levels of prevalence in the United States and are spreading globally.

For the first time in human history where being in control of one's health and making health investments day in and day out are poised to be dominant societal themes, just as smoking cessation was two decades ago, or sacrificing for the greater good was during World Wars I & II.

When you master the application of applying self-validation and showing up with confidence - that when people experience the authentic you.

What is one practice you can start implementing daily that will build your self-confidence?

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Alyssa Poggioli

Life, Leadership, Connection, and Executive Coach

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