Initiate instead of waiting!

I know that I live in my own comfort zone. I know living in the now is comfortable. I know living in a place you know, knowing that there’s a corner to turn and what’s around the bend is comforting but when does that turning round to a predictable sight become boring? Unfulfilling? Makes you contemplate your life? You wonder what’s out there you’re missing out on and what you could be doing. What other sights you could see and experience when you turn a corner you didn’t expect to find. The one thing holding you back is your fear of the unknown and failure.

But you must find the route of this fear of failure. Is it because you’re very self sufficient and you can’t afford to take risks? Or is it you feel there’s so many eyes watching your every move; have you got a tonne of people to impress? You could say jumping to something new and daring, asking this person out was a hard thing for you to do because you initially think this is going to flat line and I’m not confident enough.

But then it floundered into something but then it died. During that time, that experience, you may have grown as a person in ways you never anticipated or dreamed of and may never have done if you didn’t go through it. You gained experience in relationships. ‘But then what’s the point in experience if I’m never successful in one? Experiences mould and develop you in ways that you may not be able to even see if you don’t carefully look. You may even, in the end, say to yourself ‘I’m proud I jumped out of my comfort zone. Doing this shows me I can do this again.

Skills are normally transferable. If dealing with this special person of yours meant being there for them if they were particularly emotional for instance; you’ll probably be able to pick up signs of people who are like that and be able to offer them moral support or just acknowledge to yourself ‘yeah need to look out for them’. If it is so, so easy for someone to say to you “ go take the plunge! You’ll never know if you don’t try!”. But actually acting on that? Is truly down to you.

For showing initiative, first you need to wire your mind to not see failure as a bad thing and the only result to a situation. For example, you could be in a three year relationship and it was a real good one and you thought you may actually marry this guy/girl/whatever gender they go by. But then, you break up with them. Moreover, the way I look at it is, does anything in the end actually matter? The world will blow up in a matter of time, just like you yourself will expire. The only people who deal with the consequences of your life are the people that come after you, and even then they can change the impact it’s having on their world.

You know it very well that initiating something is better than waiting, however the question here is, what are going to do about it? You can stay in your “comfort zone until the day you die, in fact that is precisely what is killing you, your so called “comfort zone.” Time to get out, get amongst them, and turn on the world to your undiscovered self - and I’ll bet you’re already making excuses as to why that can’t happen. That’s pitiful really speaking.

As far as I know, there isn’t really one great piece of advice for someone who has initiative problems. But what is perhaps most important is that you decide what it is you want. Do you know what the things are that you enjoy doing? If you do, think about finding ways to make them build you up, whether that’s financially or emotionally. When it comes to risk taking, I guess I’d say to you that everything is a risk. Try to rethink what it means to take a risk. I know this is cliche to say, but getting out of bed is risky, you’ve just grown accustomed to it.

Now let us begin, today and now. Just go out, go someplace new, find a new friend, go to live music concerts, go to beach parties, JUST GO!!! The world is waiting for your input, your colour, your smile (if you have one). If not go to a mirror and try one on. Sitting at home while the world waits on you is not a life. No risk means you have no courage , take life in your own hands and go for it without worrying about success or failure, just initiate somethings and don't wait forever. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre