Influence Your Life with Balance

There are many factors which focus on balance and influence. Below are seven which tend to be used on a daily basis.

Balance of Legitimacy

From the time you can begin understanding the power of reasoning and the supposed legitimacy of statements made you are learning to accept the authority of ownership, tradition, rules, laws, and routines. Too often, you are taught early on to not question how applicable these are due to changing situations and relationships. Acceptance, or the lack of, is the source of much of the unrest and anger in the many diverse elements of any society and culture. When individuals are exposed to viewpoints and opportunities existing outside the boundaries they believed they had to adhere to they can become confused. Sources of physical action plus mental and emotional symbols are used to intimidate or to invite you to join with other like-minded members of an exclusive club, tribe, or other type of private or privileged organization. Everyday we are bombarded with conflicting messages from various media resources, institutional advertising, political rhetoric, educational systems, religious doctrines, family ties, and peer pressure.

Balance of Commitment

Loyalty, trust, respect, caring, and the fine art of good communication are essential to creating and maintaining a positive force of power in relationships. The quality of friendships and the ability to retain good feelings among all types of people you interact with throughout your life will either substantially improve with time or conceivably fall into a shattered mess of broken pieces at any time if solid and positive commitment is not practiced. One act or statement can destroy future opportunities, reduce possible resource links, and ruin goodwill that may have developed. Learn to listen more closely to the interests others explain to you - these tell you more about the persons hopes and goals than strategic meetings or discussions about objectives.

Balance of Knowledge

There is a saying that you can never know too much. While this may be true in an overall general way, be careful how you make use of intelligence gathered and the expertise gained through skills and talent enhancement. Sometimes it is better to hold back some pieces of information in order to gather more details. If you are doing this in a manner to gain more data before making decisions, rather than jumping towards choices and conclusions that are not useful, well-rounded or comprehensive, then you are using the power of observation correctly. If your intent is to use this knowledge against someone, that is taking unfair advantage of someone who may believe they are operating within the parameters of fairness and legitimacy. Display decency and demonstrate a desire for mutual success and achievement.

Balance of Rewards

Money, prosperity, rights, and privileges are of a tangible nature. In business, financial rewards include profits, the result of goals associated with cash flow, liquidity, borrowing power, partial coverage of fixed costs, maintenance of specialized productive resources, or return-on-investment targets. Expanded markets, products, and channels of distribution are long term rewards. Intangible rewards of self-esteem, seeing hopes turn into end results and accomplishments become reality provide a firmer and expanded base of power. Combined, these elements contribute to benefits filling needs for safety, love, worth, and self-realization. There are others to discover for each individual; it's up to you to explore and extract them by deepening and enhancing relationships through sharing information and asking open-ended questions. Give yourself gifts of pleasure and performance regularly by offering presents verbally, physically and with different types of possessions for personal or professional use.

Balance of Punishment or Non-Reward

The element of influence and addition or withdrawal of encouragement and/or feelings of worth are effective forms to circumventing thoughts of authority and creating a state of doubt or harrassment. Psychological punishment may be inflicted by creating tension, uncertainty, a concern about quality or possible flaws, and a loss of confidence. The fear of losing something desired or being rejected are powerful methods to use as a threat or pressure to negotiate. People can persuade or cajole others to commit to a course of action or providing a service or product. Be very aware of how this power is used; a small distinction (or fine line) has the ability to create a large difference between what most people view as right or wrong and positive or negative.

Balance of Uncertainty and Courage

Feelings of security are treasured by everyone, no matter what their living conditions and circumstances are. Being safe goes beyond survival, it is the desire to avoid or minimize dangerous situations and risk-taking. Those willing to accept a higher level of doubt and being unsure of the end result generally end up with greater amounts of power and admiration. Uncertainty often derives from a presumption that an act ought to be feared, prejudice (for or against a person, place, or thing), pre-judgement, perspectives which come from experiences (lessons learned), and possibly erroneous or flawed teachings. Those elements can obviously put anyone into a state of mind where confusion and conflict can camoflauge strengths and increase thoughts of how weaknesses will win. Each of us will assess factors differently, even when identical information is accessed and distributed evenly. This seems to hold true whether the risk is foreseen and anticipated or comes unexpectedly. It takes courage to tolerate uncertainty; be tolerant and kind to yourself and others when dealing with these feelings and character traits.

Balance of Time and Effort

The person who is willing to rationally develop a planned timeline and deadline is more likely to be the winner no matter what he or she is involved in. Whether it be in school, on the job, juggling family interactions, making time for friendships, being involved in team athletics or community clubs, or any of the many activities there are to choose from - there will be decisions made as to how many hours one can invest for each choice. Agreements between people need to be honored in order not to feel cheated when *that time* comes up on the schedule. Whether it involves effort or is playtime (vacations, hobbies, relaxation), a genuine interest, solid reason, and commitment to follow through is important. Forfeiting through excuses is not acceptable to those who are waiting for your participation; you will lose in the short and long term if your word cannot be relied upon.

When your integrity and philosophies are genuinely stated and adhered to, you are more likely to achieve dreams and goals. Influence the nuances of balancing your life using these seven tips to keep the various styles of travel encountered during your life journey a more pleasant and rewarding adventure.

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