Individuals Trivia No. #5

Fear & When life hits you

”Behind every fear is a person you want to be”

We’ve got to be able to take some disappointment in life to not always is everything going to go well. So, you just have to roll with the punches when when adversity hits you. When life hits you.

It’s hard when we face financial difficulties in our own life. We lag behind on our bills and our dreams and I will say to them you can live your dream. It's hard and it's very difficult to pick yourself up each day believing that you can do it. There will be times when you will doubt yourself and say to yourself God Why why is this happening to me, It is very hard. Where’s what i have to say to you for those who have faced some hardships. “DON’T GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS”

If you’re always winning then you really don’t understand what it is to win, you got to take those losses you got to take those hits there’s got to be those valleys the peaks the UPs the downs. In order for you to when it does happen you go wow Garrido, you know this is what it’s all about, and not only that it’s never about making it guys it’s always about maintaining that’s the toughest part.  

A lot of people have that but they are scared of failure. When you are scared of failure you lack self-esteem. Failure is one of the most important things you can have, as far as the motivation to do things differently. One of the reasons that people are good at their work is because they have been a worker in the past and the feeling of failure. Even when you lose, it’s okay to lose but you can’t have a good call, so Thomas Edison failed 10,000 times before he found the light bulb. Being positive he said “I have not failed 10,000 times—I've successfully found 10,000 ways that will not work.”

How can those failures drive you?

At the time they will scare you and failure isn’t easy. It’s not like you think oh cool I failed and success will teach you that one of the most important things to have is perseverance. The dedication and willingness to fail to pick yourself up again and give you another shot. If you don’t have that grit. You’re gonna get run over. 

It’s the reinforcement of those goals like understanding you can achieve those goals. It’s going to be difficult, you’re gonna push through the difficulty and then you’re gonna understand, what difficulty truly is and how much of it is just mental how much of it is just in your mind this adversity to a difficult task or to struggle. You have failed so many times but you got back up. You’ve been through the toughest times with your family I bet, you’re still standing. We don’t develop courage by being happy every day, we develop it by surviving the toughest times and challenging adversity. 

Leonardo di Caprio got rejected a couple of times and then he kept asking and asking and asking. He remembers his dad saying just stick with it someday you’ll have your day. And after two years he got an agent and never looked back. A differential of somebody winning and losing has nothing to do with their genetics, there’s nothing to do with the potential. It’s their perseverance always showing up. A Person that is willing to gamble it to show up then you have a chance if you don’t show up, the outcome is simply never there, like an audition if you show up to the audition there’s a chance you might get the part. If you’re too scared to show up and sit back at home wondering what if and everything else. NO one in hell is gonna call you an opportunity, because you weren’t present the winners always show up they’re willing to lose in order to gain big. The big mental thing they’re guys. Everyone could take action literally. If it's that simple, all it takes to succeed is the ability to know what you want, take action nor if it's working, keep changing until you get what you want, how come everybody doesn’t do it. You go after you give it all you have if you lose at least you tried man. I failed 10 times, is more of a man than someone who said what if because what if never went to the arena.

The reason is fear and fear is usually fear of failure or success or rejection but the real word I would use for this thing we’re afraid of is pain. Leonardo di Caprio shared that his producers told him Leo “Pain is temporary movies are forever”. When you find a fear it will either create you or destroy you. I love fear, which is why behind every fear is a person you want to be. Fear is self-imposed meaning it doesn’t exist, you create it you can destroy it too. It’s intangible, 

After this car crash Doctor told Vinny pazienza that he will never box again.

What was the biggest lie you were told?

It's not that simple. It's the lie they tell you over and over.

What's not simple?

Anything, all of it. They will tell you it's not simple any of it.

So, What's the truth?

That it is, that if you just do the things they tell you, you can't then it's done. and you realize it is that simple and it always was.

Dr. Carter had a tear in his eyes. You can say he felt for Vinny pazienza and he said Son I'm sorry to say but you're not gonna box again. Vinny pazienza looked at him and said no Dr. Carter you're wrong. I am gonna box again, see you don't understand what kind of man I am,

 Vinny Pazienza idolized Muhammad Ali. They both were never knocked out. They got up all the time.

If you face your fear guys you will realize it’s not that big. You face your fear and you become the person you want to be. You run from your fears, you’re not living your life, but you’re not to get the freedom. You’re not running the day, day is running you. You’ll always be the servant and not the master guys. You find the fear the quickest easiest way you can beat it is initially when it comes in you allow it to stick they will grow roots & start breaking you down destroying the potential person you can be. Again the champions guys. It’s not the potential, it's not the genetics, it’s their perseverance to always show up, always willing to fail, is a failure as a part of success. Success is not your marathon of life with just ups and downs. It is formulated through failures, through facing your fears, through falling down and getting back up. That's what creates a champion. Success doesn’t define us. “WE DEFINE THE SUCCESS”. 

Just like your financial planning where there is the fear of losing money with higher returns. But remember, Profit is the reward of risks. There is nothing worthwhile in life without taking risks.

Shame, failure, embarrassment and I just remember feeling this tremendous shame and at some point, we all hit that moment in life where things just are not going how you thought they would go and what’s amazing about those moments is we all respond very differently. Persevere, nothing worthwhile is easy. No one of achievement has avoided failure. Sometimes catastrophic failures, they keep at it, they learn from mistakes they don’t quit.  

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