#Individuals Trivia no. 19

Awaken the Giant within (Part-1)

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Lesson 1: Decisions determine your destiny, not your conditions. Decisions are a tool that can change your life. The minute that you make a new decision, you set in motion a new cause, effect, direction, and destination for your life. You literally begin to change your life the moment you make a new decision. But remember, if there is no action, then you haven't truly decided. The quality of our lives is based on our decisions. So let's learn, how to make them. The five elements that make up a decision are beliefs, rules, values, references, and emotional states.

Lesson 2: Beliefs of events shape our lives, not the events themselves. Beliefs are a feeling of certainty about something. If i get my dream job it's my belief about it that will shape my life, not the job itself. A dream job means nothing without the belief that it enables me to support myself by doing what i love. Most of our beliefs are generalizations about our past. Based on interpretations and painful experiences. To change a belief, link pain to the old one, and pleasure to the new one. To help you understand this. Let's look at an example; Tony doesn't drink alcohol, he believes alcohol brings him more pain than pleasure. He reinforced this belief by drinking so much that he felt horribly sick and vomited everywhere. He hasn't drink since. Many people can resonate with Tony's story. It is very rare that people drink enough to the point of feeling sick, because you linked massive pain with this, through past experience of drinking too much. I find it much more pleasurable having a few drinks than feeling sick having your friends cleaning up your vomit and suffering from a hangover the next morning. This could be compared with numerous examples of your life with pain and pleasurable experiences. How do you gain those experiences in the first place; by reading books, articles and doing things that you plan. Although our own experiences can be limited but reading about how someone became a millionaire will reinforce the belief that you too can become a millionaire.

Lesson 3: Create rules that make it easy for you to feel pleasure, and hard to feel pain. A rule is a type of belief that describes what has to happen in order for us to feel good. We all have rules. For example, if work in an office or run my business then i only feel productive if go to the office or open my business in the morning. Now that we know what rules are how do we take advantage of them? The key is to create rules for ourselves that will make us feel great, and aren't determined by the events outside of our control. Having rules that are reliant on being fulfilled by external influences will set you up for disappointment. A bad rule is to expect appreciation every time you help someone. The reality is that not everyone will thank you for your efforts. It's human nature. A much more empowering rule would be to expect to feel good b expecting you have helped someone out, even if they don't thankyou. If you donate blood and nobody thanks you. Create a rule that allows you to feel great about the fact that you have saved three lives rather than only allowing yourself to feel good after being appreciated. If you are longing for happiness what are your rules for what has to happen to make you feel good? My big claim is that nothing has to happen for you to feel happy. You could feel happy right now for absolutely no reason, think about it. If you make million dollars the million dollars do not give you any pleasure. It's your rule that says when i hit this mark then i will give myself the permission to feel good, so just change your rules. The moment you decide to feel good, you send a message to your brain, to change your responses in the muscles of your face, chest, and body to change your breathing, and to change your biochemistry, within your nervous system that causes you to feel the sensations you call pleasure. This rule doesn't rely on outside events, just changing your own thoughts which makes it a rule where it's easy to feel pleasure and hard to feel pain. Create more of these rules and you will make massive improvements in your life.

Lesson 4: Your Values determine the quality of your decision. The direction of our life is determined by our values. For long term happiness, we must live by our highest ideals We can't do this if we don't know what our values are. Every decision is guided by our values. So, if you don't what they are prepare for pain. Anytime you have difficulty making an important decision. It's because you are not clear about your values. Let's have a look at Jolie's values affected her big decision to become a performer at Disneyland. Initially, she was thrilled to be working at Disneyland. Her schedule, however, was extremely demanding, it required hourly commutes in rush hour traffic, several hours of rehearsals, and she had to get up very early. This became tiring, the worst part is, it cut into her personal life and prevented her from spending time with her family and friends. She began to cry and complain, one morning she'd had enough. Disneyland became painful for her. Why? She could no longer spend time with all those she loved most. She also felt being a trainer, which she was before she went to Disneyland, helped her to grow more than anything else in her life. She didn't feel like she was growing at Disney. So, if you ask her, what her values were. 1.Love 2. Health 3.Growth & 4.Accomplishment. If you ask her, what's important about working at Disneyland? She said she was originally excited, and saw it as an opportunity to make new friends, receive recognition for her work, have fun & experience a sense of accomplishment. At this point, she said she wasn't feeling accomplished, or like she was growing anymore, If you tell if you left Disneyland, spend time at home, and then went to Hawaii, what would that give you? She will immediately brighten up. She would say "i could spend some time with my boyfriend i could feel free again, i could start exercising and get my body back in shape, i could find other ways to grow and achieve, i would be so happy". Before she started working at Disney she was fulfilling her top three values: Love, health & growth. By going to Disney she aimed to work on her fourth value accomplishment. However, by so doing she missed on fulfilling her top three values. This is a common experience, where you will have to realize that we must accomplish our highest values first. To identify your values, ask yourself, what is most important to you in life, Write down 10 values and order them by their importance. Some examples are 1.passion, 2.freedom, 3.family, and 4.friends. You can also have ten values you want to avoid. They could be emotions like 1.humiliation, 2.frustration, 3. depression, and 4.Anger. List this in order of which one you would like to avoid most. Lessons5, 6, 7 & 8 to be continued in part 2

So, let's us all wear our wings of fire with our ignited minds to awaken the giant within.

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