The in-between

Celebrating 10 Years of Adventure

Today marks the day 10 years ago of moving from Belgium to Switzerland. As I reflect on the past decade of my life, I'm very grateful for the incredible adventure that led me from my home in Belgium to the beautiful country of Switzerland. A journey filled with challenges, friendships, and countless lessons that have shaped me into the person I am today.

Navigating the Chocolate question

When you move to Switzerland your Belgian friends imagine you are skiing all day, and you get the question often: "What is better? Belgian or Swiss chocolate?" Living next to the Lindt chocolate factory and home of chocolate, this question takes on a whole new meaning. Surrounded by the aroma of chocolate innovation, I realize that life's choices are not always as simple as picking between two great chocolates.

From Friends to a coconut Framily

Amidst the uncertainty and unfamiliarity, I discovered the strength of building a tribe. New friends effortlessly transformed into ‘framily’—more than just friends, they're family for life. So, here's to framily—the friends who became family when home was miles away. Their laughter, shared stories, and unwavering support make the adventure of living abroad not just bearable but truly amazing and enriching. Though the journey of moving comes with its challenges, the lasting bonds forged make each obstacle worth overcoming.

Peaches or coconuts? According to Fons Trompenaars and Charles Hampden-Turner's metaphor in "Riding the Waves of Culture," the Swiss are comparable to coconuts—initially challenging to approach, but once you crack the shell, they turn into lifelong friends. These terms illustrate two country culture types: peaches and coconuts, where coconuts symbolize reserved and initially hard-to-connect-with individuals. Therefore, if you come across a Swiss coconut, remember that a bit of effort can pave the way to a lasting friendship.

Finding Home in Different Places

Over the years, my idea of home has changed a lot. Now, it's more about feeling like I belong rather than just a specific place on a map. Home is where that cozy feeling of belonging exists. Switzerland, with its mix of innovation and old traditions, diverse cultures, and deep history, has become my special kind of home. But, I also keep the homeland Belgium and Gent my Heimat, close to my heart. The memories and connections there are a forever part of me. Wherever I go, Belgium will always be an important part of what home means to me.

Switzerland-Belgium: A Tapestry of Contrasts

• Switzerland is famous for its innovation and safety. Yet, even in this wonderful country, there are some contrasts. The stunning nature is incredible, but there's also a mix of rich history, diversity, and it is sometimes very traditional. The imaginary R?stigraben in Switzerland where one side speaks German and the other speaks French is a bit like Belgium's language divide, creating a unique cultural mix in a small space. I feel very fortunate to have ended up in this diverse and fascinating country. In essence, Switzerland captivates with its natural beauty, exquisite products, and a commitment to excellence. The Swiss flag says it all, it has a big plus in it ??

As I visit Belgium after living a decade abroad, I find myself in an unexpected role—playing the part of a tourist in my own country. The country has transformed in my absence. Similarly, I've evolved into a different version of myself. ?Even though my German skills have received a serious upgrade from ‘JM Pfaff’ level (Belgians will understand ??), when I'm in Belgium, I enjoy the small talk in shops and restaurants a lot more than I did before. It's my favorite language thing, and I miss it here. Because small talk here isn't as easy with my not-so-perfect German which is work in progress.

I once came across a text that perfectly encapsulates the essence of living in a new country.

The In-Between Experience: ?‘The day you start living in another country you're no longer a tourist or traveler but you're not a native either, you become something in-between your old life and your new one. And it doesn't matter how long you go for or if you come back you'll always be part of the collective who lived this unique experience and know all too well the feeling of belonging and not really belonging, of living within the in-between, and knowing that both feeling homesick and at home, comfort and the unknown, can exist at the same time.’

Some of my learnings of living the journey in the in-between:

• Embrace Challenges: Moving can be tough, but every challenge holds the promise of a valuable experience. Embrace it, it is so worth the effort.
• Have a growth mindset and embrace open-mindedness: be open for new learning, anticipate the unexpected and welcome the unfamiliar with an open mind.
• Stay true to your values: They act as your anchor, providing stability in the face of change. Adapting to a new culture doesn't mean abandoning who you are. Instead, it's an opportunity to enrich your identity by drawing inspiration from your surroundings. Respect the values of your new community, but also celebrate the unique thread of your own background.
• Cultivate New Friendships: ?Build connections in your new environment; the bonds formed will be an essential part of your experience.
• Treasure old friendships: Keep in touch with your existing friends. I'm fortunate to have a small group of Belgian friends who consistently support me, visiting my new home and making every reunion when I am in Belgium very special.
• Don't hesitate to seek support: While the journey may not always be easy, remember that there's always help available. Reach out when needed; people are often willing to lend a helping hand.
• Check local customs and rules: In a new place, it's key to grasp local customs and rules, like how people greet and behave. Swiss, for instance, are quite friendly, often saying hello on the streets and in the mountains. Understanding these nuances helps you connect with the community. Checking local customs is a smart way to immerse yourself in a new culture and appreciate their way of life.

Thank You for Being a Part of My Journey:

Thanks a lot to everyone who made this an adventure of a lifetime an awesome one! Your support and company turned everyday moments into great memories. I'm thankful for each of you who shared this part of my life. Your friendship brought lots of happiness, and I'm excited to keep going on this journey together. Big thanks for being a big part of my story. Here's to more exciting adventures ahead!

Cheers to finding home in the in-between!