Improvise through Chaos, Current, Clarity

Happy 4th of July y'all!?

She’s back!?And after this time of silence, closing chapters for good and experiencing life changing moments I’m returning full of love, empowered through life changing events to full force push forward my mission to impact the life of my readers, clients and beyond.? Watch out for more insights, thought leadership and entertainment on the life of a mom, entrepreneur, POV on tech and simply ME.?

So, to all the haters, no: I was not running out of ideas or fuel for new and fresh perspectives, nor was I going back to remaining silent or back to a place of passivity.?In fact I took a quantum leap in many ways and can’t wait to share bit by bit of the outcome of the past weeks' events.? And if someone feels compelled collaborating and looking for an internship, assistant or associate job, I’m looking for support, shoot me a DM.

Enjoy the Chaos

Sometimes there are 42 hour days, and in fact some social media detox is needed and super beneficial, sometimes even unplanned.

Next door, my soon is attending his Python Minecraft class with @Learnist and I’m still waiting on my office set-up/redecoration to getting started.?So, it’s still a bit improvised and chaotic these days.

This newsletter is intended for today the 4th of July, a day of liberation and independence. It so happens quite literally for me as well, well and that by no means planned but really improvised, out of the motivation to make it happen - no matter how. Improvisation happens mostly when there is no other way out, yet sometimes even the better solutions are around the corner that lead to much better outcomes.?But surely you can’t just lead a life in chaos and constantly hustling for the way out of the mess.?Some strategy is needed on how to gain clarity. Improvisation can open new pathways for sustainable solutions, if we have clarity about what it is that led us in this chaos.

So it's good to detach and untangle the mess you've been getting yourself in by just getting your stuff done, amending and fixing. Detachment does not mean to cut activities or to step back from your projects, it means to jump into the current and detach from the outcome you expect and rather take life as it comes and what it provides you with.

Fast decision making and action is needed to get things rolling and to survive sometimes, when this current is dragging you to new ways of thinking and navigating in the world.

'Isn't it too much?' 'How are you keeping track of these things?' 'Do you actually have a private life?' 'I'm impressed, but for me, this would not be a life style I wanted.' Some of my friends, neighbors or even clients, tell me: 'It's super fascinating, but I'm to scared to make an exit, or I can't afford to make an exit out of the corporate world, first I have to safe money, first the kids have to be out of the house, yada, yada, yada. And when they finally have the kids out, the compensation in hand or saved enough money or - happens quite often- have a burnout, they start the vibrant life of being a coach, consultant and entrepreneur.

Follow the Current: Leave the Old Life

Honestly, I feel a lot of people currently try to get themselves out of corporate and really 'try it out' to work as a freelancer, consultant or entrepreneur. For some it works out quite well, and for others it just means extra hustle and pain and eventually they're back in corporate, looking for a slower life. The same is true for the unfulfilling relationships. Because we are too scared to leave it behind.

If you remain what I call 'forever corporate' you can never really find your way to lead a successful and happy life as an entrepreneur. You will be always stuck in your head with planning, perfection and optimizing, looking for the pitfalls, instead of embracing the unknown potential. Improvising is there often considered as a failure of planning, poor management or simply laziness. And see, this doubt holds you back from sky rocketing and living the life of your dreams.

In fact, this fear of failure leads you to take decisions and do things, you regret in retrospect. As there is no way that you get everything planned out meticulously, and that puts you under tremendous stress. Not going as planned or put a lot of stress on you, that weighs you down. What I often heard is 'Well, you can't have it all.' Either you have a balanced life, or you are successful. Either you have a family or you have a career. Either you have this or you have that. But you know, besides I'm bad at making decisions when it's about something I want with all my heart, I also don't want that some norm or rule puts limitations on how I chose to lead my life and be successful. In retrospect all that I had considered to be the secure path, turned out that was the entire opposite; what's more, I realized I had wasted my time (more on time in my previous newsletter.)

But why exactly? What was holding me back to take this leap into the unknown in the first place?

Some say, sanity not going all in and keeping the safety net of the corporate 'easy money'. Yet, it is like in a romantic relationship. If you don't dare to go all in, you'll never find bliss. If you always stay at that level of what you know and rely on your experience, well you can be pretty sure, it won't work out. After all you left the relationship or the former employer. So, the common denominator is you. By opting always for the save path you don't trust your idea or better yourself to that extend that you just leave the safe heaven and sail to new shores. (Apparently the marathon Pirates of the Caribbean with my 10 year old impacts on my language.) You can't just leave your heart with the life you know and experienced and remain in that pattern, while you aim for a life that has an impact on millions of people like that of Elon Musk, Rihanna or Jeff Besoz. The new comes with a clash. The old is gone. It's unknown and pretty shocking in fact and it literally can bring you to your knees. And sometimes, this is essential, to start seeing a new flow of revenue, a new opportunity, a new person or a person in a different light. Getting ourselves out of the comfort of the knowing and start to embrace the chaos of potential and start improvising right now.

Commitment Leads to Clarity

See, it is not this step out of the corporate world or safe bed of employment. I mentioned in my newsletters the autopilot vs the consciously aware decision making, when it comes to your vision, mission and values, before quite a lot. No doubt, it's fantastic to pride yourself as an entrepreneur if you founded a company and now build a first very blurry new innovative idea that eventually (if all goes well) really changes the world and makes you rich.

This clarity is a commitment to the outcome, but not necessarily as you know it. I assure you, what you know from your experience helps you only to a certain extend when you are on the mission to something unique and new. Better than knowing is the attitude to trust and commit you are dead set to succeed and than go all in. And with this clarity you learn to prioritize, say yes or no, even to things that might give you instant gratification, but sure as hell will derail you mission.

It's a lifestyle, not made for everyone. It's a farewell to the old you. And connected to your new identity and your personal victory or better indenpence from the concepts we know. So, if you are in a relationship, it might be a no to your partner, might show that you're not the right match, it will challenge all parts of your life. (That's what I'm happy to help you with.) However, if you stay true to who you are, your mission, and everything you will attract - in other words magnetize - the right people, partners, friends and those who help you drive your passion further. Sometimes, this means as well to improvise in many ways, as not everything can be planned. So for example, how to pay the rent, how to get an internship with a track record that sucks? How to separate as a housewife with little to no income, or a single dad, who realized long ago, there is now way that his wife/partner supports the lifestyle of creating something unique and changing the world. A power couple is on one page - through and through. They share the same overarching mission and they have clarity and a common ground where to go.

The way you commit to your partner or your job, the more it is important to commit to yourself, to finally get you there to lead the life of your dreams. And yes, you can have it all, fully independent and follow who you really are and sometimes even improvising the how is easy when you know what your heart desires and commit to it.

Bring it on!

Danny

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Words that stuck with me:?

"Imagination is more important than knowledge.?Knowledge is limited.?Imagination encircles the world."?- Albert Einstein - Stolen from an amazing Beyoncé concert I went to - whenever Beyoncé is in town - go get a ticket!

Reads that inspire me?

Brianna Wiest.?The Pivot Year.

‘What's truly right for you will inspire you as much as it terrifies you. What's truly right for you will feel like a complete unknown and a homecoming, all at once. What's truly right for you will feel like a victory lap and an exhale - as though you are reaching beyond anything you've ever believed yourself capable of doing and yet finally returning to what you've always know was yours.'

The heart tells us what we want and our deepest desire. Sometimes it just is a matter of how and a certain trust that our heart is the compass after all.

Chasing you inner Superhero?‘Life will only change when you become more committed to your dreams than you are to your comfort zone.’ - Billy Cox.