Improve Customer Loyalty by Combating Negativity with Compassion
Ron Kaufman
?? Helping Leaders & Organizations Build Winning Service Cultures | CEO at Uplifting Service | Keynote Speaker | NYT Bestselling Author | World’s #1 Customer Experience Guru 2018-2024
We meet people face-to-face, at counters, in meetings, in writing and over the phone. Often our moments of contact are brief, fragmented, and mere snapshots in the longer movie of their lives.
We form impressions based upon these moments, and act upon those feelings. But we may never know what’s really going on.
The next time you encounter someone who triggers a negative reaction by their tone of voice, body posture, odd request or persistent misunderstanding, take a moment to pause and consider. In doing so, you just might improve customer service loyalty.
This other person may have health or financial difficulties you will never know about. This other person may be in the middle of a crisis or some unanticipated trouble. This other person has a life that is not revealed by your short moment together. This other person may be a lot like you. When you pause to consider and move forward with kind behavior, your actions may improve customer loyalty while providing someone in need with a gesture of kindness.
Given that I may never know “what’s really going on” with those who trigger my negative emotions, I’ve adopted two principles that serve me (and them) very well and also help to improve customer loyalty:
1. Practice generosity to improve customer loyalty
For the upset customer, I give something more than they expected. For frustrated staff, I offer an extra pat on the back. For the disgruntled vendor or supplier, I give them the benefit of the doubt. All of these actions work to improve customer loyalty.
2. Exercise compassion to improve customer loyalty
To the angry customer I say gently, “You must be having a tough day.” To the befuddled sales clerk I offer, “Thanks for your help. I know this can be confusing.” To the forever unsatisfied I state, “It’s OK. You deserve to get what you really want.”
Note that my principles are to practice generosity and exercise compassion. This isn’t always easy. It takes effort, a bit like doing sit-ups. But it does get easier over time, and makes me feel better, too. These are the right things to do and they can improve customer loyalty.
Key Learning Point To Improve Customer Loyalty
You improve customer loyalty when people see you are on their side, not against them. The next time you experience a negative reaction to another person’s words, actions or behavior, do some mental sit-ups before you reply. Then practice generosity and exercise compassion.
Action Steps To Improve Customer Loyalty
Discuss this with your colleagues, friends and family members. Find out what kind of person bothers, irritates or gets you hopping mad. Then brainstorm what might be happening or hurting in someone else’s life that has them acting up or behaving towards you that way. Act in kindness and you might brighten their day and improve customer loyalty in the process.
If you were in that painful position, what generous gesture or compassionate kindness might you appreciate most? What nice things could someone say that would help you out? What kind actions could someone do that would ease or heal your pain?
The next time someone upset or angry appears in your life, take the initiative to do something right: practice generosity, exercise compassion – improve customer loyalty.
This article was first published on: https://www.upyourservice.com/learning-library/customer-service-mindset/you-may-never-know-whats-really-going-on
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6 年I encountered an issue recently with a very aggressive passenger and had to intervene after my staff asked for assistance due to her behaviour towards them. It had reached the point where normally we would contact the airline raising the issue whether they would be suitable to fly or not. She was travelling on her own with 5 children, two were autistic and one had a serious medical problem. I told her in no uncertain terms that we didn't tolerate any aggression towards our staff but soon realised that she wasn't a bad person, just very stressed given her situation. I did speak to her airline, but asked if she could be boarded first and could she be given extra special treatment and assistance during the flight. She was behaving like that because she needed help. In customer service environments, there are often moments of aggression towards staff that are matched with aggression. Those customers didn't wake up in the morning wanting a fight. Something happened to make them so negative. Address the underlying issue with compassion and understanding and you might get your happy customer.
Digital Account Executive - Hibu - Northeast WI - Integrated Digital Marketing I SEO I Paid Search | Digital Display | Social Marketing | Retargeting | Digital Marketing Automation I Direct Hire Recruiting
6 年Point 2 is an excellent reminder about compassion and always remember the old Presley song, "Walk a Mile in My Shoes!!!!
Managing Director at Hitel Vision P Ltd
6 年As always inspiring article on Customer Loyalty. Wish brands in India read your articles & enriched their CE or CC manager - directors with some common sense of Customer Care ...
Customer loyalty starts with loyalty towards those who are supposed to interact with them.
LinkedIn Top Voices in CRM and Customer Service - CRM & Data Insights/Partnerships/Digital Transformation/ Strategist/Speaker
6 年Fully agree. In my line of work, difficult customers often want us to listen and be on their side to resolve the issues. Often when we listen and talk to them sincerely, we unearth the real triggers and on the way to heal the customers' unhappiness. Be ready to commit time as most of such conversations can range from 20 mins to more than a hour.