Impressing Those You Really Care About Most!

When someone dies in our life we might think to ourselves, I wish they knew how much I cared about them. I wish I was able to show them how much I loved them. Its really too late, they are not alive anymore and it's just sad that we don't take the time to do that enough for people we cherish.

The holiday season is coming up and we are going to be seeing people that we love, we are going to be thinking about all the people that we want to bless and connect with. Why not take the time to impress them and show them how much you care about them.

I wish I was able to show them how much I loved them.

Here are a few ways to help you show someone that you care about them.

1 - Think about why you love them.

We know we love people but we don't always know why we love them. Take the time and think about what attracts you to this person. What do you care about them so much. What are their amazing qualities. What are those qualities they share with other people that you love and care about in your life.

Chances are, once you identify that you will not only care about them more but you will want to impress them and show them how much you care about them. You will also see how unique they are and out of the few hundred people you have come in contact with in the past decade they really stand out on top of the crowd as exceptional to you and deserve your recognition.

2 - "Tell Them" What they mean to you.

Disclaimer: (This is obvious but most people don't do this.)
We think that people know that we love them, so we don't have to tell them. We think they know how much we care about them. But when they disappear we wish we told them even more. Don't wait to tell them.

But when they disappear we wish we told them even more.

Take a moment right now and tell your parents what they mean to you, tell your siblings what they mean to you. Tell your spouse, tell your kids. Do not wait, you don't know if this will be your last breath. Its not about worrying that you will die, it's living today because you know that time is passing and you don't want to have any regrets.

Make an effort to reach out to people you love this season and tell them that you love them. Reach out to people you care about and tell them that you care about them. Let there be no confusion. They will be impressed by you and feel special.

3 - Take a photo with them.

Really? This is cheesy, who wants to be that odd ball with their camera out taking photos. Who hired you to be the photographer. But we all appreciate that person who actually took the time to record the moment and shared in 10 years later.

She started crying because she doesn't have enough photos of them.

I was visiting my aunt and it's been several years since my grandparents passed away. I told her that I took hundreds of photos of both her parents. She started crying because she doesn't have enough photos of them. I pulled out my phone and she spent 3 hours going over hundreds of photos that I have stored on my Google account. She was so grateful. Don't wait till it's too late, take out your phone and take a photo with everyone you love the next time you see them. Its lame but it's worth it.

4 - Learn more about them.

You care about this person but you realize that you don't know much about them. You wish you knew more about their hobbies, passions, interests and history. Go out there, find your MVP and ask them questions. Find out what they love to do, what they love to drink, what they love to experience.

If you don't ask you won't know.

If you don't ask you won't know. Once you know, knowledge is power. You might even find that you have more in common with them than you previously thought which can deepen the relationship.

5 - Buy them their favorite lunch.

When was the last time you took your favorite person to lunch? I know I have a few amazing friends that I never go out with because we are just too busy. I don't want to regret not having time. So I am committed to finding out what their favorite lunch is and going out with them. That does not mean that you have to go to an expensive restaurant, just find out what they enjoy to eat and buy them some munchies. Food is the path to the heart and if you want to reach the heart of the people you care about, use food.

6 - Make time for them.

Today, time is worth more than money. There is so much to do and no time to do it. Social media and other technologies tend to eat up all our time. There are so many distractions and we lose ourselves.

Today, time is worth more than money.

Making time and giving others the attention they deserve is an important way to show them how much you really care about them. Make time to call them, to speak to them, to visit them, to just be with them. There does not need to be a reason. We often don't realize how powerful it is to just invest time into a relationship.

7 - Remind them of your past together.

We all good memories and bad memories of things that happened to us. What really stands out is who we had those memories with. When I think about the people that I care about, I remember things I did with them, conversations I had with them.

I recall walking in NYC with one of my best friends and just eating chips and drinking snapple. That is a memory that when I bring up today, is just heart warming. You have memories like that with the people that you care about, share those memories with them and they will be impressed.

8 - Write them the last letter.

A letter? Who sends letter! You don't even have to share the letter with them. Just write a letter to each person that you care about. It will help clarify the relationship for you.

But don't write just any letter, here is the kicker, WRITE THEM THE LAST ONE. Wait, what do you mean the last one. I mean that if you were going to die today. And you wanted to give them one last letter to tell them how you feel about them. What would you write on that letter. Go ahead, consider it a will like letter.

This one is so significant because it will really define your feelings for the person in a definite way. There is not changing this, it's the last letter. When you are ready, share that letter with them, if you want to take that relationship to places you thought was not imaginable.

I dare you! :)

9 - Buy them a gift that is up their alley.

Let's lighten this up a bit, we went a bit deep on the last one there. Just buy them something small. A flashlight if they like toys, a comb if they have hair. Something that is up their alley.

You know this person so well, you can go to the pharmacy and get them something. There is always something small you can buy someone that just screams, I care about you.

It might be a lotto ticket or a drink. Just get them someone and show them you care.

10 - Have an experience together.

A navy seal once told me that to build amazing relationships you must have amazing experiences together. Take the person that you love and care about and do things with them.

It doesn't really matter what you do as long as you have an experience. It could be grocery shopping, it could be doing laundry or watching a movie. It could be going to ikea and building something with them.

Just have an experience that is difference and make it memorable.

Now ask yourself. How many of these relationships do you have? Write down the names of the people that you want to recognize and this holiday season, make it happen!

Happy Holidays!

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BIO: Joe Apfelbaum is the CEO and co-founder of digital marketing agency Ajax Union. He is a public speaker, certified Google Trainer, and published business author. Joe enjoys speaking and writing about a broad range of business topics in his seminars, webinars and articles. Joe is a member of the Board of Directors of the Entrepreneurs Organization in Brooklyn, a group with over 11,000 CEO’s and a contributing member of the Business Owners Council, a community of the fastest growing companies in the United States. Joe is proud of all his accomplishments, but most of all he is proud of his successful foodie wife and beautiful four kids.