Imposter Syndrome + Migraines ??
Tim Perreira
Walking across America for men’s mental health | Writer, speaker, & entrepreneur | Jiu-jitsu enthusiast
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Ever since I was 15, I've had random visual migraines.
Usually, my vision?gets a little distorter, making it hard to focus or read, then I'll?lose my peripheral vision.
I've become attuned to sensing it coming on and have to lie down with eyes closed for 20-60 mins until it's gone.
Headaches only come on if I?try to power through it?by staying on screens or continue reading.
Typically, it's triggered by stress and I?only get them 1-2 times per year.
Last week, I had?3 full days in a row?of these migraines.
On the morning of the 3rd day, I knew my body was sounding the alarms?forcing me to pay attention.
Leaving tech to?start my first?business?has been the most amazing thing I've ever?done for myself.
But it's also extremely hard.?I consider myself a high-achiever and am super hard on myself.
I have a tendency to?expect things to just work out... or come easy.
And it's been a very stressful 3-4 months as I made decisions to pivot course from creating apparel to?focus directly on?helping men get healthy.
I've been helping clients 1:1 for awhile and ran my first?28-day cohort intensive program?during?February.
Response has been unbelievably positive, but I still?second guess myself?(enter imposter syndrome).
I expect things to come easy, but then?doubt myself that I can do it...
I'll get positive feedback about how much I've helped others, but then I discount their opinion and think I just got lucky.
What a vicious cycle.
Because of this, I've had one foot in, one foot out.
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I realize I've been playing it safe to protect my ego.
Not allowing myself?to commit 100%?because it?gives me an OUT?in case things don't work out?and I fail.
Which I've realized is incredibly self-sabotaging.?
"What kind of impact do I really have? Will this be a viable business?"
I had to disconnect and get?back to my baseline?of feeling centered.
I walked to the gym and did an hour alternating between sauna + meditation and cold showers to get out of my head and into my body.
Flush the stress.
Walking back to my apartment I felt?like I was?riding a cloud.
But still questioning my ability to make all this work.
I checked my mailbox for the first time in a few days and?had a letter from a guy who took my cohort course.
He wrote a long thank you note expressing?how much the course helped him, how impactful it's been on his life, and how he felt I was onto?something greater than I could imagine.
Tears flowed while reading it and I felt a?massive release, instantly shedding stress from my body.
Sometimes the universe provides you something so obvious, you'd be an idiot to not pay attention.
I don't know how this will play out, but?I know I'm 100% all-in.
And I know I didn't go?through a 4 year war with depression?to not use that experience to help others.
I realize this was more of a journal entry than wellness tip, but I feel there's power in turning your weaknesses into something that can help others most.
Tim???
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2 年Great post Tim! This is a very timely topic for many people. Impostor Syndrome comes up time and again in coaching. Some of its constituent elements like perfectionism, procrastination, self-sabotage, and fear of success, for example, can be linked to the presence of Impostor Syndrome in the background. I sometimes think that having Impostor Syndrome is like having Japanese Knotweed in your garden. The roots go very deep, they’re difficult to treat and eradicate, and they can threaten the very foundations that your house is built on. There are some excellent resources out there that people can draw on for help. ‘Unlocking Your Authentic Self: Overcoming Impostor Syndrome’ by Jennifer Hunt, and ‘Unmasking: The Coach’s Guide to Impostor Syndrome’ by Tara Halliday are both great starting points for self-coaching and reflection.
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