An important step to become the best version of you
Tony Fields
Helping Ambitious Men Achieve Peak Performance Without Compromise ?? | Over 100 Men Coached | Award Winning Performance Expert | National Conference Speaker ??
The sun is shining and today, I was the first customer in my local coffee shop. Life feels good.
However, I have been reflecting on an extremely eventful week. A week where I have received some very harsh criticism. A few years ago, I would have taken this very personally.
Today, I view this as a fantastic sign. This is a sign I am having a greater impact.
Why did this happen? I decided to stand up, and share a strong opinion that I believed in. This opinion resulted in over 45,000 people all over the world, interacting with a linkedIn post I published about Donald Trump.
If you also have ambitions to become the best version of yourself, then it is time to say what you think.
But this this is not going to be easy. Most people prefer to blend in.
The view I was sharing was not about politics, but rather around fathers and men in leadership roles. I feel strongly that fear-based, bullying tactics need to be replaced with greater...
? Compassion and understanding, when things are tough
? Kindness - as people never forgot how you make them feel
? Empowerment and support to do the right thing
90% of comments I received were positive, however these were a handful of opinions from those with opposing views.
"You are clearly a little man"
"If you are that naive you are clearly not qualified to do your job"
"I hope you don't give your clients similar advice"
Why should you start saying what you think?
1) Bigger impact - If you have ambitions to reach your potential, people will never remember you if you blend in. People follow you when they believe in you.
2) Personal of Influence - To become a key person of influence in your business (or better still your industry), you need to stand up for what you believe.
3) Be yourself - When you try to please others the only person who suffers is you. We can feel selfish when we put ourselves first, however the opposite is actually true. It is time to live life as your true authentic self.
4) Stronger relationships - When we get things off our chest and say what we think, your loved ones will respect you more. To deepen relationships sometimes we need "to not tell people what they want, but what they need to hear"
Getting started
During my performance coaching sessions with ambitious men, every week we identify small steps to get started. The compound impact over a few months, is transformational.
Action - I want to invite you today, to Identify a conversation that you have been putting off with a team or family member. Go ahead and have that conversation today.
Drop me a reply and let me know how you get on?
Tony
Recruitment Expert - Legal & Professional Services - Project Management, Technology, Strategy, Innovation
1 天前That's a brave move Tony. I'm not sure I'd be ready for the harsh critism of my thoughts in such a public way.
Helping guys over 40 optimise their hormones, gut health, brain function, sleep & energy by working on lifestyle, nutrition & movement interventions without overwhelm, adding stress or setting you up to fail once again
5 天前You know I was the same. Only recently have I realised how far I've come by not taking criticism personally. And the response has changed to one with love, saying to those criticising that I appreciate their time and their view. It's powerful not to be reactive and snap back.