This is important

The last two mornings I woke up with this low-grade anxiety that just wouldn’t go away.

You ever have those days where your mind is racing with irrational thoughts, and no matter how much you know they’re irrational, you can’t logic your way out of them?

That’s been me lately.

I know exactly what triggered it—in just two days I’m getting married (woohoo!)

And as excited as I am, the logistics of a wedding can be stressful.

I can’t wait for the big day, truly, but I’m also freaking out about making sure every detail goes according to plan. Could be the pressure of wanting everything to be perfect, the amount of stuff to handle all at once, or just the sheer fact that I’ll be standing in front of 125 people reciting my vows to the woman I love.

Probably a little of everything. Sometimes the pressure just builds.

For me, it’s about the weight of responsibility—whether it’s the responsibility I feel toward my guests, my new family, or just meeting the expectations I set for myself. It can feel like the weight of the world is on my chest some days.

I’m not looking for sympathy. I just want to keep it real.

Some days, it feels like everything is falling into place, and I’m surrounded by all the love and support I could ask for. Other days, I find myself questioning if everything will really come together the way I hope, sometimes imagining the worst-case scenario.

Anxiety is a lot like that. It’s the product of uncertainty mixed with powerlessness.

I’ve noticed that so many people experience this when it comes to their bodies and fitness goals.

Uncertainty: “I don’t know how to reach my 30-pound fat loss goal, and every time I’ve tried, I’ve failed. How can I be sure this time will be different?”

Powerlessness: “I’ve done everything I’m supposed to, and still… nothing. I feel like I have no control over the outcome.”

It’s easy to spiral when you focus on what you can’t control.

Even when you think you’ve got it all figured out, life has a way of reminding you that it’s unpredictable.

So how do you deal with that emotional storm?

Here’s what I’ve learned (mostly through therapy): you can’t try to fix the feeling. The only way out is through.

Feel it. As uncomfortable as it is, sit with it.

Write about it. Talk about it. Describe what it feels like in your body. Walk through the feelings with curiosity.

For me, my process is simple: I read. I walk. I talk to my fiancé (soon to be wife). Today, I’m sharing this with you instead. Hoping that you, reading this, feel some sort of connection.

Because no matter where you are or what your specific struggles are—whether it’s your confidence, your health, or just life lately—we’re all going through this basic human experience together.

You’re not alone. I’m not alone. We’ve all faced hard times before, and we’ll get through them again.

If you ever need someone to talk to, vent to, or just want to share what’s on your mind, I’m here. I read every single reply.

No tips or hacks today. Just me, being real about getting ready for my wedding, hoping you feel a bit of relief knowing we’re in this together.

Today, I’m going to do what I know works: walk, hydrate, eat well, lift some weights, and hug the people (and pets) I love.

I hope you do the same.

We got this.

PS: If you want to send me a message or comment below and let me know I’m not alone, I wouldn’t be mad at it ;)