Is it important to have your own house in order before you help others organise theirs?
Karen Bartle
Behavioural Change Specialist @ Dietary Change for People & Planet | Hypnotherapy/NLP Trainer @ Academy of Advanced Changework | ???
We're always told on take-off as the plane prepares to exit the runway that we should always assist ourselves in the event of an emergency and put our own oxygen mask on first before we aim to help anyone else (even our own children).
The theory being that if we don't help ourselves first are we lowering our chances of being in the best place to help other people?
Is this really the case? And how easy is this to do in reality?
If you're a dietician should you always eat well? If you are a financial adviser should you have a healthy bank balance? If you are a hairdresser should you always don a stylish hairdo? If you are a fitness instructor should you have the perfect figure and BNI? I guess this debate goes on in all sectors and will continue to until the cows come home.
Here's a summary of the pros and cons of the discussions I've been part of over the years with other therapists, particularly in relation to whether an overweight therapist should be treating an overweight client who wants to lose weight...
Pros
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Cons
So as you can see a wide range of opinions has been expressed here just from practitioners in a single profession. Take this onto the streets or into other professions and I guess the variety of comments would be astonishing. What's your take on this? Do you think it's necessary/important to have your own house in order before you help others to organise theirs? Please share your views.
Karen is a productivity coach and advanced hypnotherapist, and co-founder of the?Academy of Advanced Changework, a hypnotherapy and NLP academy providing training from beginner to advanced practitioner.
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Health Checker at Specsavers Australia & New Zealand
6 年It would be foolish to pretend that I am a calm, rational person 24/7. I am human. I encounter stress, just as others do when running their own business. It is by recognising the triggers and their impact on my own business that I can help recognise and work through it with others. As a counsellor empathy is key. By living through said frustrations, I can better empathize. As for the Con's list - I always strive for better in my clients than myself, I suppose it is a natural 'mother hen' instinct. So no, it wouldn't lead to being easy on them or avoiding key issues at all.
Experienced Wellbeing Practitioner
6 年I like a therapist who continues to work on themselves. A therapist who thinks they’ve got it sorted and nothing to learn is a dangerous one. But they certainly need to have experience and growth under their belt. So I guess it is all relative.
International Student Homestay Coodinator
6 年I don't think it's absolute, it's about context. A dietitian should help us meet our dietary needs, I'd expect them to eat well most of the time, a financial adviser, should be able to demonstrate how they get results for people and know what they are talking about, (I know one who lost everything but knows exactly how to rebuild and is demonstrating that) a hairdresser should have a good cut, a fitness instructor doesn't need a perfect body but it should be fit and healthy! I would never go to a practitioner who smelt like smoke. At the end of the day, what you do should resonate with your clients, but I don't think they have to be perfect.