Importance Of Teaching Self-Love To Children

Parents teach everything to their kids starting from walking, talking, brushing, bathing, eating, etiquette, speaking, how to dress up and so on…., list is endless. Isn’t it? And we as parent feel so happy while doing it and enjoy this process of teaching them lifetime and feels so happy seeing them learning and growing.

 We can teach all what we know and we cannot teach what we don’t know, for that we normally take help be in any field like their studies / sports and any other activity and there is nothing wrong about it. We all need help.

But no one can be blamed for not teaching their children anything which they themselves do not know as a parent- isn’t it?

How many parents know the importance of Self-Love?

How many parents teach Self-Love to their children consciously?

Rare, I guess

What is Self-Love?

We as human being are always dependent on other to love us like we expect love from our parents, family members, life partner, friends, relatives, and there is nothing wrong in it. But nothing can replace the importance of Self-love.

Self-love is simply accepting yourself the way you are and loving yourself endlessly.

Self-love not only helps you accepting yourself as you are, it also makes your roots strong like self-confidence, self-esteem, beliefs, and your attitude too. It also helps you to maintain and balance your relationships once you step in practical and real life.

No love can replace Self-Love.

How to develop Self-Love in kids from initial years.

1) Parents to fill their cup first- You cannot pour from empty cup; you must fill your cup first. You cannot teach your children what you yourself do not know, learn first loving yourself, accept yourself the way you are. This will not only help to boost your own confidence, but you will also see lot of changes in yourself which will help you to teach Self-Love to your children.

2) Affirmations- are simple positive statements that you speak aloud every day to rewire your subconscious mind. These can be customized as per child requirements like “I am the best”, “I am super intelligent”, “I am genius” and so on. This needs to be repeated minimum thrice a day with full energy starting from early morning, preferably first time in front of mirror. You can see positive changes in children after 60-70 days.

3) Mirror Exercise- Let your child stand every day in front of mirror in the morning for 2 minutes and talk to himself. Let them talk to themselves whatever they wish to. This will help them to accept themselves the way they are and will also them to boost their confidence and self-esteem. Let them say to themselves everyday “I love You”. This is a miraculous exercise. Parents can also try for themselves.

4) Positive Self-Talk- What they talk to themselves is very crucial. It’s their own talk with themselves which they do 24 hours, like i can do this or I can’t do this, this is easy to achieve, or this is not easy to achieve. Both are thoughts – one is positive and other is negative. The thought to which they feed more will win and decide their future. Make sure positive self- talk wins always. Watch them closely and help them the importance of positivity in life under circumstances.

5) Choice Freedom- Sometimes, it has been observed that parents don’t allow their children to decide themselves even for small things and which makes their decision making skills weak once they grow up and enter into real practical life, which definitely is not good for them. Allow them to take small decisions starting from their early ages, this will help them to develop decision making skills , at least allow for those decisions which does not impact anyone, for e.g if you are going for shopping for them , even if your child is 7-8 yrs old, let them select clothes of their own choice in your presence, let them select sleepers of their own choice.  Encourage them

6) Teach Setback Management- We all fail in life, infact its part of life. Sometimes kids feel bad when they fail even in small things like learning riding bicycle, they feel bad when few of kids take time to learn in comparison to others. Teach them failure management in very positive way and help them to cope up , this will prepare them to face every failure in life and later they can handle themselves and will be successful in life, as no one in life is ever successful without handling their failures in positive manner.