The Importance of Supporting LGBTQ+ Children of Divorced Parents
Divorce is a significant life change that can inflict immense emotional harm on children. LGBTQ+ youth are no exception. Already navigating their own identities and facing social challenges, divorce can be even more difficult for children of the LGBTQ+ community.
The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention has revealed a disturbing statistic: LGBTQ+ youth are more than four times as likely to attempt suicide compared to their heterosexual peers. Data also suggests that LGBTQ+ adults are two to three times more likely to experience mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, and are far more likely to turn to alcohol and drugs as coping mechanisms. Overall, LGBTQ+ youth are at a higher risk of experiencing bullying, discrimination, and mental health issues.
It is possible to help to prevent your child from experiencing such adverse emotional effects. To do so, parents must make a conscious effort to foster a supportive environment for their children at all times. Emotional support from both partners can create a strong sense of safety, awarding your LGBTQ+ youth the space and security they will need to process their feelings constructively.
To develop a healthy self-image, LGBTQ+ children will need affirmation and acceptance - especially from their parents. The change in parental dynamics brought about by your separation requires that you place a renewed emphasis on affirming and supporting your child’s gender identity and expression. Divergent attitudes between parents can cultivate unwanted feelings of confusion and internal conflict in youth.
Divorce proceedings rarely go exactly as planned. Sometimes, they drag on longer than we’d like. And sometimes, we are subjected to abominable behavior from our ex-partners and their lawyers. No matter how contentious things may become in the courtroom, maintaining a turmoil-free home is essential to ensuring your child feels valued, seen, and understood. In other words, not is not the time for criticism or confrontation. Even if parents do not understand their child’s gender identity, they must work together to form a consistent and unified front of support.
Do not attempt to navigate these challenges on your own. Instead, seek additional support from professionals in your community who are qualified to handle such delicate matters. Ensure your child has access to LGBTQ+ services such as counseling, support groups, and community organizations. Unfortunately, the lack of culturally competent providers and systemic discrimination in some healthcare spaces has presented barriers for LGBTQ+ individuals seeking access to healthcare. Avoid exacerbating possible mental health issues by enlisting guidance from those who are eager to support your child’s LGBTQ+ identity. Steer clear of those who aim to delegitimize your child’s existence, expression, and identity.
Should you need extra guidance to ensure your LGBTQ+ child is receiving the highest level of support during your divorce, I am here to help. I have a strong passion for protecting members of marginalized communities and will make it my mission to help your child feel safe, valued, and heard. Contact me here: [email protected].