The Importance of Celebrations in a Relationship

In Chinese culture, we grow up without having many celebrating our success with us. People around us tell us we are not good enough, that we “ought to” do better, that there is still room for improvement. Sounds familiar?

Did you know that this lack of celebration in our lives affects the way we approach relationships? Having coached many individuals, I realised that the lack of celebrations in one’s growing up years have hindered his/her ability to “loosen up” and have fun. It is very important to know how to celebrate different milestones in life and as a couple.

Recognition and motivation

Celebrations give us a sense of recognition for even the smallest accomplishments and milestones. Being recognised allows us to feel good about ourselves and take pride in whatever we do in life because we know that someone who matters cares. It motivates us to do better in life knowing that we have someone to celebrate with us.

Relationship Builder

Celebration helps create a sense of unity among couples. It feels good to know that someone cares and is always there for you to celebrate your success. Seeing each other grow and progress and to know that you are part of the other’s person success is a tool for bonding like no other. No condemnation, only celebration, how does that sound?

Morale Builder

Our morale often gets a boost when our efforts are recognised through celebrations. The feeling of appreciation helps to improve our attitudes towards life. Celebrations create excitement and expectancy that breaks the regular routine of daily chores and act as an additional morale booster. When morale is high between couples, love grows and this relationship becomes positively productive.