Implement FAST! Anger & Depression / Being & Doing

Something came up yesterday that needed repair.

It’s so important that I feel I must share it with you today.

What was it that needed repair? (or perhaps an overhaul?)

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--> My thinking.

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I had gotten quite angry over something that didn’t really matter.

As my son went to ball practice, I sat in the car and journaled and found the lie.

Anger comes from fear.

-- >Fear is based on the thought that something of value may be lost.

--> Anger is losing that thing of value.

-- > What am I valuing when I am criticized and get upset?

I hate the criticism because it is revealing an open wound,

Something I have accepted or rather haven’t accepted about myself,

Something that I don’t like and haven’t dealt with.

Then I thought about things that made?me happy: (winning, appreciation, etc.)

And I realized I had believed this lie about myself.

-- > “If I don’t achieve, I’m worth LESS.”

I realized this thinking can lead to depression.

And depression isn’t a good thing, because self-focus and sadness can quickly become a self-fulfilling prophecy filled with negativity and a victim mentality.

And yet I realized I was not alone.

Famous celebrities who seemingly had everything sometimes face a tragic end.

Whitney Houston, Robin Williams, Matthew Perry.

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So, I decided to change my thinking and reverse it ...

Which then reminded me of “Being Before Doing.”

In my early 20s, I had a one-hour session with two career counselors.

The men drew 4 different parts of my life and tried to connect them together, showing what I should try to find in a career.

The one thing they really tried to emphasize was “Being Before Doing.”

A friend of mine had set me up with these two counselors, and I did not have to pay. Their expertise and generosity didn’t dawn on me until I realized who one of them was.

I had a small card collection in 6th grade. When I heard Mr. Beckett mentioned statistics and his work, I realized I would not forget this day.

But Months Passed. Years Passed.

And I had no clue what “Being Before Doing” meant.

But then I remembered it yesterday and again in when I wrote this action step.

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ACTION STEP:

Change the belief, “If I don’t achieve, I’m worth LESS.”

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"I’m priceless.

I can continue to work hard.

Without being depressed

Because I know my worth is based on who I am, not what I do.

And because I know who I am, I will work hard."

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But this is not just about how you think about yourself.

It is also helps when prioritizing goals and relationships.

But more on that next week . . .

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P.S.

You don’t fail in life.

You just get to keep re-doing lessons until either you master them or die.

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Last week, my goal was …

to write down 10 things I needed to do

post them next to my “I am” identity statements in my bathroom

read them aloud each day, and

get to work on them.

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This week I get to re-do this assignment.